Who has an opinion? (BLW Contributor)

MJ

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Do you have an opinion? Well, yeah, who doesn’t? Opinions are important, and we actually need them. Without opinions, how could we make up our minds about things? For instance, when I have an opinion about something I hear, I learn more about it, then I draw a conclusion about the validity of it. Is it true? Is it right? Do I agree or disagree with it?

With social media such as it is, opinions are flung around like fleas from a shaking hound dog. Opinions come from our perspective of the world around us, and social media allows us to be more aware of that world than we were in the past. When I was a kid I knew nothing about politics and didn’t care. The subject was rarely discussed in our home, so the only time I was exposed to a political conversation was in the Social Studies class…

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Epic Fail of the Week – At least this isn’t your Family (Psycho Kid Ruins Thanksgiving)

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Legends by Ryan Fu (The Hated Ones)

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As a kid,

I’ve always wanted to capture

a dragon

but I wondered what

would I’ve done

if I actually caught one?

So day in

&

day out

I eat

&

take shit

with a smile on my face

just for the chance to write

my own story.

Because isn’t that the only reason

why we do anything?

Why we abuse

&

torture ourselves,

until we are halfway to our graves. 

We want to be remembered.

We want our words

&

actions

to live on past the afterlife

making us immortal.

We are tired of not being the narrative

because we want to stand out.

We want to become heroes

in our own story. 

So, I remain steadfast

with my pen

&

my balls

waiting for the opportunity,

still chasing that dragon.

Photo Credit: Andy Fair Hurst

RYAN FU

Unknown

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I used to be an Open Book – Learning the Hard Way, why we need online Privacy by Jim Jax

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“I’m an open book”, said the naive person.

I’M AN OPEN BOOK!  Some even brag about it like it’s a badge of honor.  I learned the hard way how naive a statement that is.

I remember one time I was out with friends and one of them said how they admired that I was the type of person that was the first to try new things or to do something new instead of just following what others think or did.  Another friend laughed, “yea, Jim is the dumb one that does it first and finds out all the mistakes so the rest of us don’t have to go through it”.  They both were probably right.

I remember going online years ago as a kid.  I was in wonder over the internet.  I put in an AOL disk that I got in the mail.  At 14.8, the speed at that time seemed so fast.  The internet really didn’t have that many websites but I was amazed.  Over time I started using things like Yahoo, EBAY and Paypal.

I have always wanted to think that everyone has good in them.  In reality our culture has changed and not for the better.  Morals and character are harder to find and the evil that we see in the news is pretty scary.  Are all people bad?  Of course not; but ask the thousands that get bullied online every day how things have changed.

(one billion people lose their identity in Yahoo security breach)

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/capital-business/wp/2016/10/17/one-billion-reasons-why-the-yahoo-cyber-breach-matters/

How Social Media & The Internet Has Changed Our Communication:

The internet and social media is fun and has a lot of great rewards, but it also has a downfall.  It has made many people dysfunctional communicators.  Some people in business and in personal relationships are like Hemmingway in emails, texts and chats.  Get them in person and their personality is that of a napping frog and their communication skills are as good as one of the Teletubbies.  Look at people on dates; many don’t even talk to their partner.  They are texting others, looking at videos or even flirting with other people.  Go to a movie theater and try to find people that aren’t texting someone.  We have the attention spans of puppies on espresso and as a culture, we seem to use guesses, mind reading skills or jedi mind tricks to communicate with each other instead of just talking directly.

We Are Much More Open to Promote Quicker Communication:

Most Psychology studies shows that it takes a good year to really get to know someone. That’s a lifetime now.  Instead of getting to know each other, we use Facebook, Linkedin, and Match.com, or other sites to almost “instantly” learn about someone.  The problem is it’s shallow, lazy and dysfunctional at times.  It takes time to get to know people whether we are finishing each others sentences or not.  I’ve seen people move in with others after days of meeting someone on a dating site or they go into business with someone they barely know after meeting online.  It’s sheer madness.  We want it and we want it now.  The problem is you have to build a foundation be it business or in your personal relationships, and it’s more than a profile or mouse click away.  Affiliate marketing is a huge part of internet business and in reality you are joining an unknown business run by people you don’t know.  It has a 95% fail rate for a reason.

I’ve lost my identity twice and I once was used in a scam.  Between scammers and EBAY itself, it’s hard to tell the good guys from the bad.  Once two German hackers got into my EBAY account and started to put up fake adds selling high end Apple products and ended up stealing about $30,000 from people having bidders send them money by western union.

The Dangers of Being An Open Book With Online Dating:

I remember being an open book on Facebook the last 5 years especially in the dating scene when I became single.  After a while people would show up uninvited to my house and work.  I had one girl that I chatted with a couple of times do a search on me and found my business.  We had coffee once and I knew she was not the person for me plus she looked too young.  One day I came into my office to see patients in the afternoon and my secretary said, “you’re girlfriend is here”.  Well that was strange because at the time I didn’t have one.  I walked in and this cute young girl who couldn’t have been 22 was there.  I asked her what was going on.  I talked to her long enough to make sure she didn’t have an ax or Lizzie Borden tattoo, but I still wasn’t comfortable.  I eventually got rid of her.

One night when I was coming home from work, a man was sitting on my porch.  It ended up being a patient; kind of a borderline mentally ill patient that was a pretty scary guy.  He found my information from LinkedIn and Facebook and did a search on me and found my home address.  It was 11:30 pm and he asked if we could talk and if he could come in.  I actually saw my neighbor looking at him and I talked him into leaving and that if he was having issues that he should go to the ER.  I slept with a loaded gun next to my bed just in case.

I write online at times for political sites and I was Mr. Open Book then too.  Unfortunately I said something some people didn’t like and I started getting death threats.  Someone emailed me a photo of my front yard saying he was watching me.  I called the police but I was paranoid whenever anyone came by.

The worst situation I had was a girl I met online and we started to talk.  She lived near me and asked to meet.  We met a couple of times and would text and talk on the phone sometimes but just friends stuff.  There was just something not right with her and my spidey sense was tingling.  I told her that we should be online friends and that maybe one of these days we could get together again but that I was really busy at work.  I’m not a sleazy person and I don’t sleep around like a lot of people do so I just felt uncomfortable with being that close.

Some pretty girls rarely if ever hear the word no from a guy and she didn’t take it well.  She went crazy.  She started freaking out telling me who did I think I was and that she could get guys 100 times better than I was.  She then said I was messing with her and that no one messed with her and got away with it.  I’ve always tried dating the sweet, girl next door types so the psycho high maintenance I’m going to kill you while  you sleep type of girls were never my thing.

At about 12:30 am I began to get texts.  Now I have a lot of friends that text me at that time because they are night owls and usually bored; but this was different.  It was a girl asking to meet and have sex.  She then began to talk about things that we can do that I’m not quite sure are physically possible; I mean I looked it up and I don’t think those parts go together or can bend that way but I still could be wrong.  Anyways, I texted her back saying she had the wrong guy and told her to stop texting me.  I found out that angry woman had put an ad with all of my information and photo on a sex add on Craigslist.  Craigslist actually told me to call the police.  I warned her and she took the ad down.  Instead of taking my time and being careful, I was an open book with all of my personal information on Facebook and LinkedIn and I let my walls down.

(Yahoo scans emails to give to the government)

http://www.businessinsider.com/r-exclusive-yahoo-secretly-scanned-customer-emails-for-us-intelligence-sources-2016-10

Protect Your Photos: 

You want to talk about open books, just go on Twitter or instagram.  People put up naked or sexual photos literally potentially ruining their reputation.  I knew a nurse once who got fired and many felt the reason was her Facebook photos that were extremely sexual.

It just blows me away how people can send near strangers naked photos of themselves and even videos.  It’s both dumb and risky at the same time and lacks class.  I know many are insecure these days needing lots of attention but man.  Once something is on the internet it is there forever!  Photos are easily stolen and I found out the hard way how people can use them to try and embarrass you or make you look bad.

Take Back Your Privacy:

I realized then that between big business pimping out our web surfing habits, locations, purchasing habits, and all of our social media information, I was not going to be used or exposed.  Now Samsung admits to recording us through some of their tv’s and appliances are the next to hook us up online.  Unfortunately there is only so much we can do to protect our information, but I’m determined to keep my accounts as private as possible.

I finally said “enough”.  I had written for many publications online but I started over.  I got a pen name and I stopped posting up family photos and giving personal information.  I closed all of my social media sites and started over.  I told my 3000 Facebook followers that I was moving on and that it had gotten too weird for me.  Magically all of the drama ended shortly after.

A New Lease on MY Online Life:

I started to write again and it felt good to not be weighed down by internet drama.  I’ve now restarted and I’ve been much less open online.  The drama is mostly gone.  Even though I have over 40k followers on my two Twitter accounts, I keep people at a distance. I now don’t have to deal with the nonsense.  I don’t put my real birthday online, or my address or my name, and I’ve slowly created safe, fun and healthy online relationships with some turning into friendships.  I’ve used Google voice for contact phone numbers and I feel much safer.

Social media and technology has entrenched a high level of trust in the latest generations and I worry about them.  Corporations have slowly eroded their sense of privacy and their respect for it.  I think some would put blood sample results online if they were asked to; they are open books and trust everyone.  They don’t have any money now but when they get older and start making money, taking their identities will be like taking candy from a baby because they are so trusting.  It’s even a risk with our money.  When I met with my banker once he spoke under his breath and told me not to use the banking application because in reality financial apps in his opinion were not safe.

Linked in is the worst.  Why in the world would I tell about myself and my business to people that are competitors so they could know what I am doing and what I’m working on.  I was taught to keep things under wraps.

It used to drive one of my ex girlfriends insane when every where we went; or even if I was online; people would tell me their life stories.  I’ve talked to people at times who will tell me their most innermost secrets and I barely know them.  Maybe in a way people are just lonely and with all of the dysfunctional communications, they just need a human being to actually talk to in person.

The Moral of The Story: 

People can do what they want but I think people need to wake up and not be open books.  For our jobs some of us are forced to be as open as possible but on our personal accounts it’s our choice.  The world isn’t as safe a place anymore and people need to be much more careful.  You shouldn’t be a fearful hermit, but you also shouldn’t be Shirley Temple.  It takes one identity theft, one bad thing said online, or one picture to ruin a reputation and cause years of headaches.  Sorry Steve Zuckerberg, Apple and Google; I’m not trusting you any more.  Learn from my mistakes; I always make them before everyone else does.

Check out other great articles from Jim Jax 

Legends by Ryan Fu (The Hated Ones)

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As a kid,

I’ve always wanted to capture

a dragon

but I wondered what

would I’ve done

if I actually caught one?

So day in

&

day out

I eat

&

take shit

with a smile on my face

just for the chance to write

my own story.

Because isn’t that the only reason

why we do anything?

Why we abuse

&

torture ourselves,

until we are halfway to our graves. 

We want to be remembered.

We want our words

&

actions

to live on past the afterlife

making us immortal.

We are tired of not being the narrative

because we want to stand out.

We want to become heroes

in our own story. 

So, I remain steadfast

with my pen

&

my balls

waiting for the opportunity,

still chasing that dragon.

Photo Credit: Andy Fair Hurst

RYAN FU

Unknown

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Happy New Year!!! Check out my new Book – Alessandra Sands: Burning Bridges (Free on Kindle)

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ALESSANDRA SANDSBURNING BRIDGES 

Burning Bridges is about Alessandra Sands, who is not living up to her own potential as she waste her life away in a physician-assisted suicide company called Bridges. In the not too distant future, suicide is not outlawed but accepted. There are even convince store like businesses that you can walk into, fill up paper work and they take care of you like you a dental procedure. You’re in and you never come out. They’re called Bridges because they help you onto your next destination in the afterlife. Unfortunately, Alessandra figures out the Bridges are trying to take over the world, which Bridge authorities find out about it and now are trying to kill her. Alessandra must make a choice, which side of the bridge she wants to stand on, the good or bad side. They’re called Bridges because they help you onto your next destination in the afterlife. Unfortunately, Alessandra figures out the Bridges are trying to take over the world, which Bridge authorities find out about it and now are trying to kill her. Alessandra must make a choice, which side of the bridge she wants to stand on, the good or bad side

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Hate the Holidays? – Happy Humbug Day!!! – Tell us what annoys you about the holidays?

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When the stresses of the holiday season have piled up, many of us start to feel a bit like Scrooge.  This day was created to allow us an opportunity to express our frustrations.  Humbug Day is celebrated annually on December 21.

Tell us what annoys you about the holidays?

They’re just like us by Ryan Fu (The Hated Ones)

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“Come to the Grove now!” My partner calls me on my phone during my drunken coma on a lazy Sunday afternoon.

“What? You know it’s a Sunday and the MTV Movie Awards are going on right now? Who is at the Grove?” as I wipe the drool from my mouth.

“Just get over here now,” London demanding me to head to the very popular shopping center in Hollywood.

I try to gather myself as the room was spinning but I manage to sit up noticing I still was wearing the same the clothes from the night before which was a good thing because I didn’t feel like changing my shit. I splash my face with water giving myself an old fashion cologne shower. I jump in my car heading to the Grove hoping it was true because I just didn’t want to get up for a bullshit ass tip.

Once I get there my head was still pounding as I pop two Advils in my mouth trying to stay focus on the job but it was hard because this place sucked. I get call from my partner asking me to immediately to come inside the Grove to find him. It was your typical busy Sunday afternoon at the Grove with loud and annoying kids running around a packed outdoor mall without any supervision from their parents. I managed to snake my way to through the crowded mall finding London who was already on the job. He tells me to get ready and take the other angle, as I ask him who’s here?

“Katie Holmes with Suri.”

Fuck. Fuck. Fuck.

That’s why he was freaking out so much. This was a big shot for us aka “the money shot” because she lives in New York and rarely comes to L.A. Also we were amazingly exclusive on it, which never happens because there are usually hordes of paparazzi on her as they chase her and Tom Cruise from their Scientology building in Hollywood. I try to blend in with the crowd as we wait in front a popular clothing store, then I spot one of the bodyguards that was with her. He looked like a bodyguard, big as a door with a stoic face and an earpiece. He probably has extensive military experience, which he just protects celebrities on the side for extra money but the reality of it he misses being in the shit because he’s an adrenaline junkie, who just spotted me and my partner out like a lion in the savanna. He was trying to figure out if we were a threat or not as I slowly pull out my camera showing him that we were just two scumbag opportunists waiting to get a shot of Mrs. Holmes.

He walks back inside of the store but five minutes later he comes out with his back up, which looked exactly like him but bigger. Both of them were staring at us now when the main guy gives us a sign telling us to give distance for her, which we both acknowledge him by giving him a thumbs up, then he gives the thumbs up back to us. We knew it right there and then that it was on. She comes of the clothing store with her adorable daughter in tow as we pop out of the crowd to take pictures her.

We start to unload on her as you can hear our digital cameras echoing in the Grove like machine guns as Katie continues on her shopping spree. At first, she notices us but quickly pretends we weren’t even there trying to have some quality mother and daughter time together by sharing the bond of shopping. They make their way through the Grove as one guard leads the way as the another guard watches their back, but both always vigilante on where we were the whole time. 

I stop for a moment to take the whole scene in taking a glance at my partner, London looking like a giddy kid in a candy store acting like he won the lottery, never once putting down the camera making sure he captured every single moment of this event that was happening because he knew the public loved this shit. This is the reason why people buy magazines and are so invested in celebrities daily lives, it’s because we want to see you acting normal. They want us to believe that they’re just like us but of course they will never be like normal people because they want to be in the spotlight. Which is now happening at the Grove as people were stopping whatever they were going to take pictures on their phones on the cute interaction between Katie and her daughter. The cuteness was about to go on overload with the next act between this mother and daughter duo.

Katie decides to stop at a bakery because little Suri was begging for something to eat. Both security stood guard in front of the bakery making sure nobody entered while Katie was in there as we where outside waiting to shoot some more of her. A small group of tourists try to take a peek on who was inside in the bakery, but the guards were not letting anyone in, which was good for us because we didn’t want any these assholes get better pictures than us because this was big money for us.

Then the cuteness meter went on overload as Suri storms out of the bakery with a chocolate croissant heading to a little picnic park at the Grove. The security tries to keep up with the little tyke as she leaves her mother behind but we were right in front capturing every adorable moment as Suri begins to eat the chocolate croissant causing a mess having chocolate all over her face and hands while her mother shows us how to be a good mom wiping off the filth off her kid’s face like any regular mom would.

We continue on to take photographs of them as they try to act like regular people. Just a loving mother trying to bond with her adorable daughter, doing what mothers and daughters like to do, which is shop. Even though I was still weary from the night before still confused on where exactly I was because my head was still pounding, I knew that this was not an act I was witnessing from these two. It was just a mother and daughter, who loved each other trying to be normal people, just like you and I, minus the hangover as I find a trashcan to throw up as London quickly uploads the photos telling me that I wasn’t done yet because there were more celebrities here at the Grove as we finally let go of Katie and Suri as they finally leave the shopping center. At the moment, I really wished I were one of those normal tourists walking around Grove as I throw up again into the trashcan, then I gather myself again picking up my camera as spot another celebrity chasing after them as do what I do best.

RYAN FU

Unknown

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Legends by Ryan Fu (The Hated Ones)

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Legends

As a kid,

I’ve always wanted to capture

a dragon

but I wondered what

would I’ve done

if I actually caught one?

So day in

&

day out

I eat

&

take shit

with a smile on my face

just for the chance to write

my own story.

Because isn’t that the only reason

why we do anything?

Why we abuse

&

torture ourselves,

until we are halfway to our graves. 

We want to be remembered.

We want our words

&

actions

to live on past the afterlife

making us immortal.

We are tired of not being the narrative

because we want to stand out.

We want to become heroes

in our own story. 

So, I remain steadfast

with my pen

&

my balls

waiting for the opportunity,

still chasing that dragon.

Photo Credit: Andy Fair Hurst

RYAN FU

Unknown

THE HATED ONES

Buy it on Amazon.com

Epic Fail of the Week – At least this isn’t your Family (Psycho Kid Ruins Thanksgiving)

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