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So when do you say enough is enough? At what point in life do you decide that being taken for granted has ran its last lap and you are ready to reclaim ownership? Abuse comes in many different ways.
No individual, whether it is a man, woman nor child should be subject to abuse. There are times when you may witness firsthand someone getting the shit beat out of them but you stand back out of fear. In today’s times, people are more prone to capturing your death on camera, than they are to stepping in to save you. I will admit, back in the days people would step in to help but it isn’t quite as easy to coming across the same rescue today.
It is never okay nor is it acceptable to display or inflict any type of abuse on any individual regardless of what has took place. Sometimes, you could actually be a victim of domestic abuse but due to the multiple excuses you make for the abuser, you don’t recognize it. Just because someone doesn’t hit you does not mean that you were not physically abused.
According to The National Domestic Violence Hotline site, signs of domestic abuse are described as follows:
- Telling you that you can never do anything right
- Showing jealousy of your friends and time spent away
- Keeping you or discouraging you from seeing friends or family members
- Embarrassing or shaming you with put-downs
- Controlling every penny spent in the household
- Taking your money or refusing to give you money for expenses
- Looking at you or acting in ways that scare you
- Controlling who you see, where you go, or what you do
- Preventing you from making your own decisions
- Telling you that you are a bad parent or threatening to harm or take away your children
- Preventing you from working or attending school
- Destroying your property or threatening to hurt or kill your pets
- Intimidating you with guns, knives or other weapons
- Pressuring you to have sex when you don’t want to or do things sexually you’re not comfortable with
- Pressuring you to use drugs or alcohol
You may be wondering, “Why do you stay in an abusive relationship if you know that this isn’t right?” Well it’s always easier to be on the outside looking in, than on the inside looking out. You never know that the behavior you’re experiencing isn’t the actual way you should be treated. You begin making excuses for the abuser which leads to you rationalizing why they’re acting a particular way.
“It must have been something I said.”
“He/She was just having a bad day.”
“They love me and this is the only way they know how to express it.”
“His/Her parents weren’t around to show them how to really love, so its okay.”
I have no degree or license to back up how I feel but rather, experience. I’ve been in relationships where I felt like it was something that I said or did that caused them to react this way. I began making excuses for their behavior and soon became desensitized to my own feelings. It was always, “what can I do to make them not feel this way,” instead of figuring out my exit plan.
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