by Ryan Fu •
Introducing the New Orleans Saints’ newest cheerleader — a 40-year-old mother of two.
Mississippi’s Kriste Lewis fended off tough competition from women nearly than half her age to win a spot on the coveted Saintsations team for 2014/15.
The long-time dance instructor, who has 14- and 11-year-old sons, decided to try out for the NFL troop after celebrating her landmark birthday.
She was also inspired by her serious health issue to win one of 36 places.
You know how you can hear something a hundred times in a hundred different ways before it finally gets through to you? The ten truths listed below fall firmly into that category – life lessons that many of us likely learned years ago, and have been reminded of ever since, but for whatever reason, haven’t fully grasped.
This, my friends, is my attempt at helping all of us, myself included, “get it” and “remember it” once and for all…
We know deep down that life is short, and that death will happen to all of us eventually, and yet we are infinitely surprised when it happens to someone we know. It’s like walking up a flight of stairs with a distracted mind, and misjudging the final step. You expected there to be one more stair than there is, and so you find yourself off balance for a moment, before your mind shifts back to the present moment and how the world really is.
LIVE your life TODAY! Don’t ignore death, but don’t be afraid of it either. Be afraid of a life you never lived because you were too afraid to take action. Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside you while you’re still alive. Be bold. Be courageous. Be scared to death, and then take the next step anyway.
Your life is yours alone. Others can try to persuade you, but they can’t decide for you. They can walk with you, but not in your shoes. So make sure the path you decide to walk aligns with your own intuition and desires, and don’t be scared to switch paths or pave a new one when it makes sense.
Remember, it’s always better to be at the bottom of the ladder you want to climb than the top of the one you don’t. Be productive and patient. And realize that patience is not about waiting, but the ability to keep a good attitude while working hard for what you believe in. This is your life, and it is made up entirely of your choices. May your actions speak louder than your words. May your life preach louder than your lips. May your success be your noise in the end.
And if life only teaches you one thing, let it be that taking a passionate leap is always worth it. Even if you have no idea where you’re going to land, be brave enough to step up to the edge of the unknown, and listen to your heart. (Angel and I discuss this in more detail in the “Passion and Growth” chapter of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.)
Busyness isn’t a virtue, nor is it something to respect. Though we all have seasons of crazy schedules, very few of us have a legitimate need to be busy ALL the time. We simply don’t know how to live within our means, prioritize properly, and say no when we should.
Being busy rarely equates to productivity these days. Just take a quick look around. Busy people outnumber productive people by a wide margin. Busy people are rushing all over the place, and running late half of the time. They’re heading to work, conferences, meetings, social engagements, etc. They barely have enough free time for family get-togethers and they rarely get enough sleep. Yet, emails are shooting out of their smart phones like machine gun bullets, and their day planners are jammed to the brim with obligations. Their busy schedule gives them an elevated sense of importance. But it’s all an illusion. They’re like hamsters running on a wheel.
Though being busy can make us feel more alive than anything else for a moment, the sensation is not sustainable long term. We will inevitably, whether tomorrow or on our deathbed, come to wish that we spent less time in the buzz of busyness and more time actually living a purposeful life.
Most mistakes are unavoidable. Learn to forgive yourself. It’s not a problem to make them. It’s only a problem if you never learn from them.
If you’re too afraid of failure, you can’t possibly do what needs to be done to be successful. The solution to this problem is making friends with failure. You want to know the difference between a master and a beginner? The master has failed more times than the beginner has even tried. Behind every great piece of art is a thousand failed attempts to make it, but these attempts are simply never shown to us.
Bottom line: Just because it’s not happening now, doesn’t mean it never will. Sometimes things have to go very wrong before they can be right. (Read The Success Principles.)
Success never comes to look for you while you wait around thinking about it.
You are what you do, not what you say you’ll do. Knowledge is basically useless without action. Good things don’t come to those who wait; they come to those who work on meaningful goals. Ask yourself what’s really important and then have the courage to build your life around your answer.
And remember, if you wait until you feel 100% ready to begin, you’ll likely be waiting the rest of your life.
Life gets much easier when you learn to accept all the apologies you never got. The key is to be thankful for every experience – positive or negative. It’s taking a step back and saying, “Thank you for the lesson.” It’s realizing that grudges from the past are a perfect waste of today’s happiness, and that holding one is like letting unwanted company live rent free in your head.
Forgiveness is a promise – one you want to keep. When you forgive someone you are making a promise not to hold the unchangeable past against your present self. It has nothing to do with freeing a criminal of his or her crime, and everything to do with freeing yourself of the burden of being an eternal victim.
You will only ever be as great as the people you surround yourself with, so be brave enough to let go of those who keep bringing you down. You shouldn’t force connections with people who constantly make you feel less than amazing.
If someone makes you feel uncomfortable and insecure every time you’re with them, for whatever reason, they’re probably not close friend material. If they make you feel like you can’t be yourself, or if they make you “less than” in any way, don’t pursue a connection with them. If you feel emotionally drained after hanging out with them or get a small hit of anxiety when you are reminded of them, listen to your intuition. There are so many “right people” for you, who energize you and inspire you to be your best self. It makes no sense to force it with people who are the wrong match for you.
It’s important to be nice to others, but it’s even more important to be nice to yourself. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world. So make sure you don’t start seeing yourself through the eyes of those who don’t value you. Know your worth, even if they don’t.
Today, let someone love you just the way you are – as flawed as you might be, as unattractive as you sometimes feel, and as incomplete as you think you are. Yes, let someone love you despite all of this, and let that someone be YOU. (Read Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It.)
Stuff really is just stuff, and it has absolutely no bearing on who you are as a person. Most of us can make do with much less than we think we need. That’s a valuable reminder, especially in a hugely consumer-driven culture that focuses more on material things than meaningful connections and experiences.
You have to create your own culture. Don’t watch TV, don’t read every fashion magazine, and don’t consume too much of the evening news. Find the strength to fill your time with meaningful experiences. The space and time you are occupying at this very moment is LIFE, and if you’re worrying about Kim Kardashian or Lebron James or some other famous face, then you are disempowered. You’re giving your life away to marketing and media trickery, which is created by big companies to ultimately motivate you to want to dress a certain way, look a certain way, and be a certain way. This is tragic, this kind of thinking. It’s all just Hollywood brainwashing. What is real is YOU and your friends and your family, your loves, your highs, your hopes, your plans, your fears, etc.
Too often we’re told that we’re not important, we’re just peripheral to what is. “Get a degree, get a job, get a car, get a house, and keep on getting.” And it’s sad, because someday you’ll wake up and realize you’ve been tricked. And all you’ll want then is to reclaim your mind by getting it out of the hands of the brainwashers who want to turn you into a drone that buys everything that isn’t needed to impress everyone that isn’t important.
Embrace change and realize it happens for a reason. It won’t always be obvious at first, but in the end it will be worth it.
What you have today may become what you had by tomorrow. You never know. Things change, often spontaneously. People and circumstances come and go. Life doesn’t stop for anybody. It moves rapidly and rushes from calm to chaos in a matter of seconds, and happens like this to people every day. It’s likely happening to someone nearby right now.
Sometimes the shortest split second in time changes the direction of our lives. A seemingly innocuous decision rattles our whole world like a meteorite striking Earth. Entire lives have been swiveled and flipped upside down, for better or worse, on the strength of an unpredictable event. And these events are always happening.
However good or bad a situation is now, it will change. That’s the one thing you can count on. So when life is good, enjoy it. Don’t go looking for something better every second. Happiness never comes to those who don’t appreciate what they have while they have it.
What else would you add to this list? What important life lessons do you often forget? Leave a comment below and share your thoughts.
Credit: MARC CHERNOFF
Dawn of the Planet of the Apes is the 2014 sequel to the 2011 science fiction film Rise of the Planet of the Apes. Andy Serkis returned to play Caesar, the chimpanzee revolutionary while stuntman Terry Notary returned to reprise his role as Caesar’s hairless chimpanzee best friend, Rocket. Karin Konoval will return as Caesar’s trusted orangutan best friend Maurice.
The film featured Judy Greer who will plays Caesar’s wife, Cornelia replacing dancer Devyn Dalton in the role. The film will also starred Nick Thurston who joined the cast as Caesar and Cornelia’s teenage son, Blue Eyes. While Toby Kebbell joins the cast as Caesar’s rival Koba, replacing Christopher Gordon in the role. The film will also starred Keri Russell as Ellie, Jason Clarke as Malcolm, and Kodi Smit-McPhee as Alexander, the human family which Caesar encounters while Gary Oldman joins the cast as Dreyfus, the human antagonist.
The story starts 10 years after a devastating virus nearly killed every human on the planet. Caesar is King-like trying to maintain order over a growing nation of genetically evolved apes who are threatened by a band of humans in San Francisco, survivors of the virus that was unleashed a decade and a half earlier. They reach a fragile peace, but it proves short-lived, as both sides are brought to the brink of a war that will determine who will emerge as Earth’s dominant species.
I was really excited to see this movie because I wasn’t too impressed with the other selections with this year’s Summer Blockbuster films. Also, I liked Rise of the Planet of the Apes with James Franco that appeared in 2011. I saw the movie with a couple of friends with one of my buddies telling me it got great reviews which he said one person saw it twice on opening day. We were all excited to see it after hearing that news and we weren’t disappointed. After the movie ended it received a well deserve round of applause for being such a great film. I would highly recommend it to all my friends.
That’s right I said it! I mean he’s in the film but he’s not acting in it. I’m not the biggest fan of James Franco’s acting, I thought he was good in 127 Hours but that’s it. I thought he almost ruined it in the first movie because the movie almost became all about him and of course it’s all about the apes. I was glad he just had a small scene with a fragile Caesar as he picked up a video camera reminiscing about his former life with the humans. On a side note, I thought it was funny when Caesar picked up the camera because it reminded me of those TMZ camera monkeys running around harassing people.
The ape’s namesake becomes his destiny. He has a bigger role in the animal community with everyone looking up to him for leadership and protection. Also, he is a badass in the film even when another ape tries to challenge him for the leadership role. Caesar gives the other monkey, which was Koba, a beat down in front of his whole crew. The whole scene reminded me of a scene of Goodfellas but with monkeys. Caesar uses his power for the good of his community never overstepping on the apes rights, which is one of the reasons why all the apes love him.
Koba is one of the apes that continually challenges Caesar’s judgment and authority. Koba was one of the apes that were experimented on in the lab where the virus was created. So, we can understand why Koba hates and does not trust the human race. I personally wouldn’t trust anyone who kept sticking and prodding me in a cage. Being in a cage for so long he has a bit of a crazy side, which showed in the film in a great war scene with Koba going Kamikaze style with a machine gun on a horse. He’s a great counter part to Caesar because all Koba wants is to kill all the humans and be in charge of the apes. He wants the power not for the good of the community but he wants it all to himself but of course this was his downfall.
Koba has a lot of scars due to the experimentations from the humans, so he is the scariest monkey in the film. Although in one scene he acted like a dumb monkey, making faces with two human soldiers was very funny but the mood got dark quickly because this is what Koba is, a damaged ape looking for revenge like so many humans in the film.
The acting was superb. Jason Clarke who plays Malcolm was way better than James Franco because he desperately wants the human race to survive but he also realizes the apes earned the right to have a place in the world. His scenes with Caesar where theatre like where everyone believed what they were saying. The whole movie was like watching a play in the theatre with the great acting and high drama. It was very Shakespearean where the audience is hanging on every word and excited in every scene.
If you don’t care about the story or the acting, it was worth watching the apes fighting the humans. Everyone loves a good battle scene and I loved cinematography in the fighting scenes. I know most of fighting scenes where done in CGI but the production team did a great job because it looked real and amazing. Again watching Koba going Braveheart in the battle scene was fucking amazing!