by Ryan Fu •
For non-apologists, saying “I’m sorry” carries psychological ramifications that run far deeper than the words themselves imply; it elicits fundamental fears (either conscious or unconscious) they desperately want to avoid:
By refusing to apologize, non-apologists are trying to manage their emotions. They are often comfortable with anger, irritability, and emotional distance, and experience emotional closeness and vulnerability to be extremely threatening. They fear that lowering their guard even slightly will make their psychological defenses crumble and open the floodgates to a well of sadness and despair that will pour out of them, leaving them powerless to stop it. They might be correct. However, they are incorrect in assuming that exhibiting these deep and pent-up emotions (as long as they get support, love, and caring when they do—which fortunately, is often the case), will be traumatic and damaging. Opening up in such a way is often incredibly therapeutic and empowering, and it can lead them to experience far deeper emotional closeness and trust toward the other person, significantly deepening their relationship satisfaction.
Credit: Psychology Today
This film expands the Marvel Cinematic Universe into the cosmos, where brash adventurer Peter Quill finds himself the object of an unrelenting bounty hunt after stealing a mysterious orb coveted by Ronan, a powerful villain with ambitions that threaten the entire universe. To evade the ever-persistent Ronan, Quill is forced into an uneasy truce with a quartet of disparate misfits-Rocket, a gun-toting raccoon, Groot, a tree-like humanoid, the deadly and enigmatic Gamora and the revenge-driven Drax the Destroyer. But when Quill discovers the true power of the orb and the menace it poses to the cosmos, he must do his best to rally his ragtag rivals for a last, desperate stand-with the galaxy’s fate in the balance.
I saw it the other day before I went to work, which I was quite excited to see it because I heard a lot of great reviews about the film. Even a theater fire couldn’t stop me from watching the movie, well kinda. In a packed theater in the morning, we were all just 30 minutes into the movie, which I might add was quite enjoyable, then fire alarm went off! I was so into the movie because it didn’t take itself seriously like other Marvel films do, which I think Ironman is so relatable and likable to many people as opposed to other Marvel films because in the end of the day it’s just a movie about a comic book character. (I just lost a few comic book nerds with that line but I digress.)
The fire alarm went off, the lights went flashing on and a voice came on the PA telling us to evacuate the building but we were all like “fuck that!” We were all having a blast watching the movie that we weren’t going to leave until we all saw smoke. But 15 mins later, sitting still watching the movie with the flashing fire alarms and PA system telling us we were in danger, the manager turned off the screen and physically told is to leave the theater because of the fire alarm. Adults and children inside of the movie theater made a collective “ahhhh” because we were all having fun. We stood outside the theater for like 10 mins until we were told to go back in and they re-started the film to where they stopped it and our adventure continued.
Chris Pratt was a perfect leading man in this film because he isn’t your typical leading man, I mean he is good looking with muscles but he has the everyman quality in which everyone likes to be around. Plus, he’s funny as shit, which was why I thought he was one of the best part of the movie and I’m super happy that he’s starting to get recognize as a viable leading man in Hollywood because he deserves it. I’ve met him a couple times while working and he was always respectful and cool. Anyways, long story short, he deserves an Oscar for this performance just kidding I think Vin Diesel should get that or at least a nomination for his voice as Groot.
Don’t get me wrong everyone in the movie played a terrific part in the movie with Chris Pratt such as Zoe Saldana, Lee Pace, Dave Batista and Karen Gillan. Zoe essentially played her part again in Avatar but it worked for her and Karen Gillan played a sexy villan. Dave Batista played a wonderful bruiser and Lee Pace, the antagonist playing Ronan the Accuser, just plays guys who want “Power” but then gets crushed in the end in such a convincing manner. I also like Bradley Cooper as the voice of hot-tempered Rocket, which he is the only one to translate for his BFF Groot, which was played by Vin Diesel. Vin Diesel had only three words he had to say the movie, which was, “I am Groot.”
But it was enough because he was the best character in the movie and at one point I got so emotional because his character so lovable, I didn’t want to see him die. But I know you guys want to read that I cried but I didn’t damn it! I’m a man watching a Marvel Comic film and dudes don’t do that. But that’s beside the point, which I’m trying to make. Even if you’re not a big comic/ sci-fi fan, you should still go watch Guardians of the Galaxy because you’re going to have a good time. Also, you might cry, which is alright because, “We are all Groot.” ;)
Tonight, a bunch of us celebrated my friend’s birthday by going to Korean BBQ. We were all having a good time eating, drinking and laughing about our problems over a flame just like the kids in the Lord of the Flies, just being good friends. But when the time came to pay the bill, it all changed because one guys at the table had their ATM card declined. Fortunately, the guy went to the bathroom, so when they brought his card back to the table to explain to us that his card had “no funds” to save his embarrassment. It took only a couple of seconds before a few guys at the table started to turn on the guy, yelling that he was bum. Then someone shouted,“we should cut his ATM card then throw it in the fire.” It was just like in Lord of the Flies, where we all decided we should kill Ralph because the group wanted it. I have to admit I was caught up in it even though I knew it was totally fucked up. It was like we all turned into a bunch of savages and we wanted to destroy something. It just goes to show you that it doesn’t take much these days before, we as men revert back to state of nature, which of course NATURE always wins.
We hold up his card over the fiery Korean BBQ grill like a ritual, getting ready to cut and kill his card. All of us shouting and yelling like a bunch of blood thirsty savages. The Asian people around us were getting worried, which we were told in the end, “we are starting to get complaints, so we need to leave.” They were totally right that we should have been thrown out of the restaurant because we acted like animals. We lost ourselves, we turned our back on our brother, we succumbed to peer pressure as we all failed humanity once again. Just weeds in the Garden of Eden as we all take a bite of the apple, which in this case was a pig. All Hail Beelzebub!
We finally gut the pig and put it on a spike for the whole world to see that the mob rules and chaos is ruthless but fair. In one motion, we cut the card like it was butter and social media it all over the net for the whole world to see. After we kill the card, we place it over the grill and do a mandatory picture of our victorious trophy. We pat each other on the backs like we were on the battlefield as we finally pay the bill and to the joy of the restaurant patrons, we leave the establishment. We all walk out before the guy comes back to the table to realize that his card and his ego was cut into two. You would think that cutting his card was the worse thing that we could have possibly done to the guy but the worse thing was pretending that nothing happened while we were all waiting outside of the valet for our cars. The dude was like Ralph, casted out of the group for nothing he did personally but because he was going against the group’s ideology.
I’m sadden and ashamed for all of us because as far as the human race has come, we can still go back to a state of nature, where the weak gets punished and mob mentality rules. I personally have to say that I’m sorry to the dude and the human race for our actions tonight but can you really blame us? No matter how civil and cool we act to one another in this present day of age, there is still that animal inside of us. The part that wants to fight and fuck everything. The dog inside of us. Where we just want to be part of the pack to hunt and kill things. So, let this be a reminder to all of you if you think you are above the human carnage that is our ancestors, which is a part of our history.
Scarlett Johansson stars in Lucy, an action-thriller that tracks a woman that gets accidentally caught in a dark deal, who turns the tables on her captors and transforms into a merciless warrior evolved beyond human logic. I actually saw this film last weekend but I just finally had the time to write a review on it, but basically I thought it was an enjoyable film with good performances by Scarlett Johansson and Morgan Freeman but some of it seemed pretty unrealistic, but what do you expect from watching a science fiction movie. It did have great philosophical ideas like what if you had the power to know everything? Would you try to know everything or would you be too scared of it?
After Scarlett becomes a drug mule for the mob, she winds up with superpowers after an experimental drug called CPH4 overloads her brain. She begins to start using more and more of brain, gaining more knowledge and superhuman capabilities. Since, basically she is one of her kind, she needs the help of Morgan Freeman because he is the best known for his brain research. Scarlett tells him that she gained the ability to access more parts of her brain but she fears that she has a limited time on her hands, so she needs guidance from him on what to do? Morgan honestly tells her that she should try to learn everything she can and pass it on to the next generation because Morgan believes that is the greatest gift that humans can give to one another, which I totally agree with because as I always say, “Knowledge is Power.”
She gets more of the experimental drug and takes it all at once like some college sorority chick after finals. She begins to transform and extract vast information like a super computer. As she gets closer to 100% brain capacity she begins to travel through time and space, moving into the past and the future, stopping and reversing as she wishes. When she hits her peak, she vaporizes into thin air leaving only her clothes and a reminder of what she learned on a USB storage stick to give to Morgan Freeman.
Once again, I totally enjoyed the movie, which I thought Scarlett and Morgan did a terrific job but some of it seemed pretty unrealistic but what do you expect when you’re talking about something nobody has ever really experienced before. Which lead me to this question? What if you did have the power to know everything? What would you do with it? Also, the movie brought up interesting questions about the human race as such as what we’ve done the last 2 billion years. We’ve accomplished a lot but are we not realizing our full potential? We still act like animals, fighting among ourselves for meaningless things. It just makes you think, what are you here for in life? Are you just here just to go to school, get a job, get married have children, pay a mortgage then die? Or are you here on Earth in this Universe to do something more in your life? These are the questions you have to ask yourself or just bask in the glory of ignorance and just enjoy the ride.