No Woman (Or Man), No Cry… (Relationship Philosophy) Love is directionless..

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Be Like Bacon – Francis Bacon (Knowledge is Power)

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Happy Sing-along Wednesday – Better Man (Pearl Jam)

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Be Like Bacon – Francis Bacon (Knowledge is Power)

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No Woman (Or Man), No Cry – Are you a crazy cat lady? (Red Flags for Women)

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A REAL man? Aren’t all men real?

A woman who begins a sentence with “A real man would….”

This is super annoying

“If you loved me you’d…”

This isn’t a damn test.

Keyword: Girls

Girls that verbally abuse their SO in public

Girls that try to embarrass guys that hit on them

Girls that use sex to make people like them

Girls that need to snoop

Girls with multiple baby daddies

Girls that need the group to make decisions for them

Gold diggers

Girls in their upper-20s and 30s that still only ever apply to part time jobs and spend the rest of the time partying despite being completely qualified and capable of landing a proper 9-5 with good pay and benefits while still complaining how they never have money for stuff. And in almost every case they are looking for a guy with solid career and good income (who they will complain can’t come out partying all the time) to sweep them up.

Constant hate

I’d even throw in girls that use the word, “haters” in a, “serious” tone. Using it in a joke is fine though.

This is not good

I know a girl that can only go 1-3 months between boyfriends. She doesn’t know how to be independent and self-sustaining, both mentally and physically.

That’s not going to fly

Obese and tries shaming me into finding her attractive.

Bad attitude

A “what can you do for me?” attitude.

Not being able to hold up their end of the conversation, or basically sitting there and expecting to be entertained.

Their living space looks like complete shit. I’m not a neat-freak by any stretch of the imagination, but if your room still looks like it does when you were 15 you need to reevaluate your life.

A general lack of self-awareness, or just an inability to recognize that their actions have consequences.

Being comfortable and casual is one thing, but showing up to a date in pajama bottoms is weapons-grade loser.

Using the pussy pass.

Proclaiming how much she gets along with her “friends” while tearing them down behind their backs.

Using sex as means to get attention.

Placing their sense of self-worth an getting attention from men.

Crying feminism when it benefits them, crying misogyny when it doesn’t.

Talking too much about their exes.

Perpetual victimhood.

Proclamations of “I don’t like drama.”

A general inability to take “no” for an answer.

Performing mental backflips in order to rationalize bad decision making in hindsight.

Being “proud” of their inability to handle basic food preparation or lack of domestic skills.

Wondering why they feel like shit all the time when their diet consists of mostly Cliff bars, flavored vodka, and Vitamin Water.

A lack of self discipline.

A preoccupation with what celebrities are doing with their lives.

Princess syndrome

Expects everyone else to carry her through life. Aka daddy’s little princess.

Complains about things and shows no interest in changing them.

Being 20+ and acting like 16.

Leeches

A random girl that approaches insisting that I should buy her and her friends drinks. Sorry, if that’s what you’re going to lead with, you’re probably not very interesting as a person and are a money pilfering leech. I don’t buy girls that aren’t my SO/friends drinks, anyways.

Women with awfully negative personalities and then blame all of the men around them for their single status. You want to know why you’re single? Because few men want someone who is a complete drag to be around 99.999% of the time.

It’s going to get ugly real fast

For me its a woman who’s only existence seems to be with you. She has no life outside you.

That’s not fair to guys

Women who, when a man finds them attractive but she doesn’t find him attractive, automatically labels him ‘creepy.’

A hollow shell

Women creating drama and whoring for attention when they’re older than 16

Women constantly complaining about how all the men they date are assholes

Women doing nothing with their lives, only existing through their trophy husband

Women who always present themselves as victims to justify their incapacity at being successful and interesting

Women having a huge amount of interest in reality TV and celebrities life

Women who only listen/watch the movies/music that the radio/TV feeds them. (Passive attitude with culture and information)

You’re their life support

If their parents pay all their bills and keep them up in a lavish lifestyle. I don’t want to become her next support.

Drama, drama, drama

Girls who say they don’t have many female friends because they cause drama. Almost invariably, it means they cause a shit load of drama but can’t take it when dished out to them.

No future

No job/career – my biggest red flag.

Awful, awful, awful

Women who are cowardly and overly dependent on others but think that acting like a bitch makes them “strong and independent”.

Women who treat every guy they don’t know like he must be some sort of creep even if he’s done nothing to justify it.

Making stupid-ass excuses

Women who use that obnoxious (and possibly misattributed) Marilyn Monroe quote about “handling them at their worst,” usually as a way to excuse their deplorable behavior and their unwillingness/inability to do something about it.

Super judgemental

Being super judgemental about people makes them a loser to me. Especially if it’s a snap judgement, or based of some preconceived notion.

If a girls on a high horse about everything and can do no wrong, she might as well have loser stamped on her forehead.

Not a good sign

A girl who has a new set of girlfriends about every six months to a year. You know that girl is going to end up being a big meanie with low self-esteem.

Major red flag here

“I have a long series of ex-boyfriends were assholes, abusive, alcoholics, etc…”

Only constant in your relationships is you.

Credit: Thought Catalog

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Sundays are for Lovers – This Modern Love (Bloc Party)

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Artsy Fartsy – The Kiss (Gustav Klimt)

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The Kiss (1907-1908) is a much loved painting by Gustav Klimt, an Austrian painter.

The painting displays an embracing couple, surrounded by patterns in the robes. The style was influenced by the arts and crafts movement and Art Nouveau. The mediums are oil and gold leaf on canvas.

The Kiss can be viewed at Österreichische Galerie Belvedere, Vienna.

The Art Wall The Kiss Gallery Wrapped Canvas Art by Gustav Klimt

Be your own Hero – How Resilient Are You?

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At first glance, these two people seem doomed to failure.He was born in poverty. When his mother died, he dropped out of school to work. He taught himself to read, worked at a series of jobs, and opened a general store with a friend. But his friend was an alcoholic who died, leaving him so deeply in debt he had to auction off all his possessions. He studied law, began practicing, ran for Congress, lost, was elected, then voted out of office. He ran for the Senate, but was defeated twice in a row. Elected president of the United States in 1860, Abraham Lincoln rose above adversity to become one of our nation’s greatest leaders.

She was raised in a dysfunctional family. Her mother rejected her, ridiculing her as “ugly.” Her father was an unstable alcoholic. Bothparents died by the time she was 10, so she went to live with her maternal grandmother and two alcoholic uncles. At 15, she went away to high school, where a wiseteacher recognized and nurtured her strengths. She married a distant cousin, who was later disabled by polio, yet became one of our greatest presidents. Throughout her life, Eleanor Roosevelt persevered, writing, teaching, working ardently for social justice, and after Franklin Roosevelt’s death, served as chair of the United Nations Human Rights Commission, drafting the Universal Declaration of Human Rights.

What makes such a difference in some people’s lives? What moves them to transcend adversity, embrace a meaningful identity, and become beacons of hope? Stronger than genetics, external conditions, socio-economic status, or education, it is a power deep within us. The Renaissance called it free will: our power to choose and thereby create our own destiny. Smith and Werner’s (1982) landmark study of at risk children in Hawaii who defied the odds called it “resilience”—the ability to thrive despite adversity. While many of their peers developed ill health, behavioral problems, and learning disabilities, the resilient children, who had at least one positive adult role model, grew up with hope and perseverance, learning to see obstacles as challenges (Karren, Smith, & Gordon, 2014, p. 90; Smith &Werner, 1982).

Resilient people don’t give up or give in. They look forward, neither dwelling on the past nor blaming others. Instead of complaining, they ask “What can I do about it?”

In their new book, Supersurvivors (2014) David Feldman and Lee Kravetz offer dramatic accounts of men and women who’ve overcometraumatic experiences to become even stronger, more hopeful, more successful than before. Models of resilience, they demonstrate the remarkable potential of the human spirit.

How resilient are you? You can mobilize your own resilient assets by focusing on mentors and role models, connecting with your own sources of hope and inspiration, and taking positive action, one step at a time.

Credit: Diane Dreher, Ph.D.

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Be Like Bacon – Francis Bacon (Knowledge is Power)

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Be Like Bacon – Francis Bacon (Knowledge is Power)

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