Poetry Mondays – On my mind by Not the First, Not the Last (BLW Contributor)

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Mind over matter,

Is that not the saying?

I’m trying to get this,

Constantly praying.

Right now I’m lonely,

And everything hurts,

My mind takes the matter, 

Can’t get any worse.

The matter goes through me,
My bones start to shiver,

My mind takes more matter,

And I start to quiver.

That sadness I’m feeling,is slipping away… 

Along with my mind, in the matter..

Ok.

I think I now get this.

It’s easy to see,

My mind is against me,

It won’t set me free.

So the matter- it helps me,

It makes me feel whole,

My constant delusions,

are taking their toll. 

On my mind.

A few years ago, I did a personality test and found myself in the ENFP box – along with Robin Williams.

All my coworkers were with President Obama and Oprah, so they laughed at me. I didn’t get why? I was with one of my heroes, so I was honoured.

When I heard about his death, I wrote this poem.

I wish he was still here. Yup.

Check out other great articles from Not the First, Not the Last

 

Forget Me Not – Happy Birthday Dr. Seuss!!!

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Theodor Seuss Geisel (March 2, 1904 – September 24, 1991) was an American writer and cartoonist. He was most widely known for his children’s books, which he wrote and illustrated under the pseudonym Dr. Seuss.

He was a perfectionist in his work and would sometimes spend up to a year on a book. It was not uncommon for him to throw out 95% of his material until he settled on a theme for his book. For a writer he was unusual in that he preferred to be paid only after he finished his work rather than in advance.

Geisel published 46 children’s books, often characterized by imaginative characters, rhyme, and frequent use of anapestic meter. His most-celebrated books include the bestselling Green Eggs and Ham, The Cat in the Hat, The Lorax, One Fish Two Fish Red Fish Blue Fish, The 500 Hats of Bartholomew Cubbins, Fox in Socks, The King’s Stilts, Hop on Pop, Thidwick the Big-Hearted Moose, Horton Hatches the Egg, Horton Hears a Who!, and How the Grinch Stole Christmas!. His works have spawned numerous adaptations, including 11 television specials, four feature films, a Broadway musical and four television series.

Leader of the Pack (Business Philosophy) – Let’s Go

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Thank you for Angels by Mselyse (BLW Contributor)

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“I am now the most miserable man living. If what I feel were equally distributed to the whole human family, there would not be one cheerful face on the earth. Whether I shall ever be better I cannot tell; I awfully forebode I shall not. To remain as I am is impossible; I must die or be better, it appears to me.

                                                  -Said by President Abraham Lincoln while suffering depression

I have often wondered how this great man could have got this country through a civil war, and reconstruction, the awful years of war and healing he lead this nation through… and to do it while suffering from a mental illness. And depression at that. A disease that takes away all will, indeed any inertia what so ever. 

I know this feeling he describes. For me, when it is at it’s worst, it is not the miserable moments of hopelessness, or even the days of crying jags that rack my body with sobs. The worst of it is when I feel nothing. Anything that I have found enjoyment in before, does nothing to move me. If I can muster a small spark of energy to go through the motions of something that I absolutely must follow though on, if it is done, at its best, it is with a zombie like presence. And quite often very quick to snap. 

These are the days I remove myself from people. Alone upstairs, if my husband is at home. He especially I don’t want to cause any hurt. He is not the most compassionate person, and that is difficult, even painful to experience, I admit. Yet, if he did process emotion to that depth, I don’t believe we would still be together after all these years. I don’t want this to be misunderstood. Mark is a wonderful man, he has been a good husband to me. He isn’t cruel, or uncaring. He is just not  one to express emotion for the most part. He is a ‘shake it off,’ ‘suck it up,’ type of man. His father was raised Amish until adulthood, and his mother raised in foster care. From there I will leave the reader to draw their conclusions.

How this has played out in my own life has been to my benefit. It forced me to take responsibility for my own emotions, and the consequences of acting on those emotions. For my own emotional well-being. I had to learn to fight through the foggy haze of depression, and find words to tell Mark what I needed. He would never be able to empathize with me to such a degree, that he would be able to articulate from my disoriented state how to respond to me, or even what to do, sometimes. Because of this, I began to remove myself from people when extremely irritable, or easily wounded mental states had me in their grip. Both of these states can easily be escalated into far more dangerous situations. Learning to do this, allowed me to eventually understand the difference between ‘reacting,’ and ‘responding’ to a situation. Those who have Bipolar disorder typically react to emotionally stimulating events, and if any higher cognitive processing happens of the event, it is an after thought. 

Those two changes in how I handle my life now, have changed my life for the better. Removing myself when highly vulnerable to being hurt, or doing the hurting, and not reacting, but pausing, thinking, and then responding. Seems so simple just to read it here. It wasn’t. It isn’t. Some-days, it isn’t even possible. There also was a book I read years ago that was a big help in doing both of these, and more. Don Miguel Ruiz’s “The Four Agreements.” I won’t spoil it, and summarize other than to say- it’s a very small book that packs a punch. It really is about just four agreements, decisions you make about how your going to live from then on. It is a life changer. I reread it yearly.

The biggest life saving tool in my arsenal however, is writing. Journaling, and when I can reach through the fog well enough, writing poetry. For me, poetry brings something beautiful back from the depths of a dark and debilitating depression. My father use to say, “but its so sad…” Well, I was depressed, that was kind of the point??? He still doesn’t totally get it; someone who hasn’t experienced depression to that degree, won’t. He does somewhat understand what it means to me now, to have something to show for it all. After coming back from that place.. And I have come back, time, and time, and time again. I hope that I always will.. And in those moments when sadly, I am hoping the opposite- I have been blessed that lost deep with in those dark, empty and lonely times, earthly, and heavenly angels have been there to pull me through.

Check out other great articles from Mselyse

Artsy Fartsy – Banksy does Gaza (The Power of Art)

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Banksy revealed the locations of the pieces in Gaza in Palestine. Inspired by a sculpture of Niobe, a Greek mythological figure, the first piece is entitled “Bomb Damage” and obviously with Banksy, the placement is just on point. Niobe’s children were killed out of spite and then in her mourning she turned into a stone that was constantly weeping.

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Two quotes were enclosed with the images of the new stenciled pieces:

Gaza is often described as ‘the world’s largest open air prison’ because no-one is allowed to enter or leave. But that seems a bit unfair to prisons – they don’t have their electricity and drinking water cut off randomly almost everyday.  – Banksy

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A local man came up and said ‘Please – what does this mean?’ I explained I wanted to highlight the destruction in Gaza by posting photos on my website – but on the internet people only look at pictures of kittens. — Banksy

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Weekend Inspiration – Leonard Nimoy (RIP) “LIVE LONG AND PROSPER”

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The Vulcan greeting and the finger-separating hand gesture that accompanies it first appeared in the second season of Star Trek: The Original Series, during an episode titled “Amok Time.” Spock himself (actor Leonard Nimoy) has made no secret of the fact that the gesture and phrase were his idea, and that he based them on Orthodox Jewish blessings he remembered from his childhood. In the Jewish blessing, the position of the fingers forms the Hebrew letter “Shin,” which represents the name “Shaddai” (Almighty God). Nimoy put his own spin on the traditional gesture by holding up just one hand (instead of both) and changing

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Exclusive BLW Interview w/ VH1 Couples Therapy star, Jenn Berman talking about Love & Success

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Dr. Jenn Berman is a licensed psychotherapist in private practice in Los Angeles. She is the host and lead therapist on VH1’s Couple’s Therapy where she does intensive therapy with celebrity couples. She has appeared as a psychological expert on hundreds of television shows including The Oprah Winfrey Show and is a regular on The Today Show, The Early Show, and HLN. She hosts a daily call-in advice show called “The Dr. Jenn Show” on Oprah Radio. She is the author of the LA Times best selling books SuperBaby: 12 Ways to Give Your Child a Head Start in the First 3 Years and The A to Z Guide to Raising Happy Confident Kids. She is the co-author of the baby board book Rockin’ Babies which she wrote with Grammy award winning songwriter Cynthia Weil. Dr. Jenn is also on the Board of Advisors for Parents Magazine. She is the creator of the No More Diets iPad app which is based on her doctoral dissertation using the non-diet method for weight loss and eating disorder treatment. In addition, Dr. Jenn has an eco-friendly clothing line for adults, children and infants called Retail Therapy. All the tees and onesies have positive “feel good” messages and are made of organic and recycled materials. Dr. Jenn lives in Los Angeles with her family. For the latest information about Dr. Jenn follow her on Twitter at Twitter.com/DrJennBerman and www.Facebook.com/DrJennBerman.

Ryan Fu:  What do you do/what are you famous for?

Dr. Jenn:   I am a licensed therapist in private practice but I am probably most known for being the therapist and host of VH1 Couples Therapy where I provide intensive psychotherapy for five celebrity couples every season. We are currently airing our forth season. I have a call-in advice radio show called “The Dr. Jenn Show” on Oprah Radio which is on Sirius XM. I am an author and have written three books: SuperBaby: 12 Ways to Give Your Child a Head Start in the First 3 Years, The A to Z Guide to Raising Happy Confident Kids and, the children’s book, Rockin’ Babies. I have a weight loss app called No More Diets that is based on my doctoral dissertation about eating disorders, yo-yo dieting and weight loss. I also have a clothing company called Retail Therapy that has eco-friendly tee shirts and onesies with positive “feel good” messages.

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Ryan Fu:  When did you decide you were going to be a therapist?

Dr. Jenn:  I was a journalism major in college and for my final project in class we had to write about a significant issue. I chose rape on college campuses. A student on my campus had raped four women and went to prison. He was going to be getting out and I was concerned that he would have access to the campus again and students didn’t know what happened. Two of the women granted me interviews. After speaking to them and doing the research on the topic, I began to realize what a huge problem acquaintance rape is and became obsessed with the story. As word got around campus that I was writing the piece, women started coming out of the woodwork and telling me their stories. It wasn’t just students, it was teachers, administrators, people I worked with. I have a real activist background and I felt I had to do something. My story became so big that I got calls from other mainstream papers wanting to cover it and, ultimately, it changed campus policy about rape. My last semester in college I volunteered for The Los Angeles Commission on Assaults Against Women (now called Peace Over Violence) as a rape and battering hotline counselor. As I was going through the intensive training, I realized that I had found my calling. I applied to graduate school shortly after.

“Courage is the most important of all the virtues because without courage, you can’t practice any other virtue consistently.”  – Maya Angelou

Ryan Fu:  What do you love about your job?

Dr. Jenn:  I have a few different jobs and I love them all. My primary work is in private practice. I love that I get to help people and see them evolve over time. The cool thing about private practice is that I have the luxury of being very patient and watching people change and develop over time. I have been working in the field for over twenty years and I have had the privilege of seeing clients through many of their biggest life events- births, deaths, marriages, divorces, career changes and so much more. Watching people evolve over the years is truly amazing.

On Couples Therapy, I get to take therapy to a whole new level. It is very deep. Because I have the couples in the house with me for weeks with cameras on them all the time, I get to observe everything. I my private practice, people report to me what happened when they have a fight. On Couples Therapy, I can watch it myself or even play it back to the couple which is such a great therapy tool. Because the couples live in the house for an extended period of time, is gets really intense. I also have resources that I don’t have in my private practice. In my office there are times where I want to bring in an ex-boyfriend, a family member or a significant person from my clients past but I can’t. On Couples, I have the resources of my producers and can usually get that person in so I can provide my clients with the healing they need. It is an amazing experience. I love that not only do I get to help my celebrity clients, but the viewer as well.

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On the radio I have a short time to get to the core issue. I usually only have a few minutes to assess what is going on, provide tips and tools and motivate my caller to make significant changes in his or her life. I have to think quickly, trust my instincts and inspire in a brief period of time. I love that I get to reach people that might not have access to me otherwise because of distance, time or finances.

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I really enjoy writing. I am an obsessive reader and can get lost in research for days. I love collecting information and then breaking it down into more manageable and interesting pieces that people can use. When I write a book, it is like giving the reader a piece of myself. I only write about things that I am really passionate about. I try to share my excitement and passion with my reader. I always strive to educate but entertain at the same time. My goal is always for the reader to be better off after having read one of my books.

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At the core, what I love about all my jobs is that I get to help people. I feel really fortunate to have such an amazing platform that has allowed me to bring therapy into the mainstream and get people talking and thinking about things that they might not have thought about before. I love when fans reach out to me to tell me that my work has changed their lives for the better. That is really why I do what I do. It is my reason for existing here on this planet.

Ryan Fu:  What is your proudest moment?

Dr. Jenn:  My proudest moment on Couples Therapy was at the end of season 1 when DMX thanked me and told me that no one else had ever fought him to help him the way I had. It meant so much to me because I could see that he understand how much I cared and that I was able to provide him with a reparative experience with a female caregiver. I was so impressed with his courage and his willingness to embrace the therapeutic process. It was an honor to go through that with him. We spoke recently and he told me how much our work together has helped him.

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My proudest moment on the radio was a call I got from a man who was deployed and got called home because his wife and two daughters had been killed in a car accident. As you can imagine, he was beside himself in his grief. I had a very emotional conversation with him. I was haunted by the call. The next day he called me back on the air and told me he had a gun on his lap when he originally called me and had been planning to kill himself when we got off the phone. He said that our call made him decide not to do it and that a friend, who he didn’t know listened to my show, heard him and came running over. She stayed with him and the next day he vowed to follow my advice and be open to therapy.

Ryan Fu:  What advice can you give to couples who are in a rocky point in their relationship?

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Dr. Jenn:  Do something different. Break your patterns. Be willing to take responsibility for your part in things. Have compassion for your partner. Fight for your relationship, especially if kids are involved. Get couples therapy.

But if you have given it your all and it is no longer working, know when it is time to move on and do that in a way that honors your history together. I don’t believe that any relationship is a failure. I think every relationship provides us with gifts and new insights that we get to keep forever. We have a responsibility to ourselves (and our future partners) to use that new found wisdom.

Ryan Fu:  What are you passionate about?

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Dr. Jenn:  I am a pretty intense and passionate person. I am a vegan and a big animal rights activist. I am constantly amazing by the cruelty and suffering in this world. Knowing that the choices that I make- not eating meat or dairy, not buying leather/fur/snakeskin, not paying for entertainment where animals are used (like circuses, Seaworld, etc.)- feels great. I love knowing that I am not contributing to the suffering of animals on a day to day basis.

Check out our article on stopping the Dolphin Killings in Denmark

Ryan Fu:  What makes you so successful?

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Dr. Jenn:  I am extremely passionate about the work I do. I believe that when I am doing therapy, writing books, and helping people I am doing what I am meant to do… fulfilling my mission in life. I am very non-traditional in my methodology at times and am always willing to do what I believe will provide my clients with the most healing, within ethical limits. I bring who I am to the therapy- for better or for worse- and I think my clients and now my viewers and listeners, sense my authenticity. I am always in the moment with the client. I guide my clients and sometimes I yell, scream or even cry, but I am always there with them in their pain.

Want to call in Dr. Jenn’s radio show or just find out when the next VH1’s Couples Therapy starring Dr. Jenn Berman or buy her books?

Check out her website @ http://www.doctorjenn.com

The Dragon’s Philosophy – The “Lost” Interview with Bruce Lee

Forget Me Not – (Harold Ramis) – How do you feel about the New All-Female Ghostbuster Cast?

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Harold Allen Ramis (November 21, 1944 – February 24, 2014) was an American actor, director, and writer specializing in comedy. His best-known film acting roles are as Egon Spengler in Ghostbusters (1984) and Russell Ziskey in Stripes (1981); he also co-wrote both films. As a writer-director, his films include the comedies Caddyshack (1980), National Lampoon’s Vacation (1983), Groundhog Day (1993) and Analyze This (1999). Ramis was the original head writer of the television series SCTV, on which he also performed, and one of three screenwriters of the film National Lampoon’s Animal House (1978).

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Ramis’ films have influenced subsequent generations of comedians and comedy writers.[1] Filmmakers including Jay RoachJake KasdanAdam Sandler, and Peter and Bobby Farrelly have cited his films as among their favorites. He won the BAFTA Award for Best Original Screenplay for Groundhog Day

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An all-female Ghostbusters Melissa McCarthy, Kristen Wiig, Kate McKinnon, and Leslie Jones

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