Are you really Sorry? – Reasons why People will Never Apologize

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For non-apologists, saying “I’m sorry” carries psychological ramifications that run far deeper than the words themselves imply; it elicits fundamental fears (either conscious or unconscious) they desperately want to avoid:

  • Admissions of wrong doing are incredibly threatening for non-apologists because they have trouble separating their actions from their character. If they did something bad, they must be bad people; if they were neglectful, they must be fundamentally selfish and uncaring; if they were wrong, they must be ignorant or stupid, etc. Therefore, apologies represent a major threat to their basic sense of identity and self-esteem.
  • Apologizing might open the door to guilt for most of us, but for non-apologists, it can open the door instead to shame. While guilt makes us feel bad about our actions, shame makes them feel bad about their selves—who they are—which makes shame a far more toxic emotion than guilt.
  • While most of us consider apologies as opportunities to resolve interpersonal conflict, non-apologists may fear their apology will only open the floodgates to further accusations and conflict. Once they admit to one wrongdoing, surely the other person will pounce on the opportunity to pile on all the previous offenses for which they refused to apologize as well.
  • Non-apologists fear that by apologizing, they would assume full responsibility and relieve the other party of any culpability—if arguing with a spouse, for example, they might fear an apology would exempt the spouse from taking any blame for a disagreement, despite the fact that each member of a couple has at least some responsibility in most arguments.

By refusing to apologize, non-apologists are trying to manage their emotions. They are often comfortable with anger, irritability, and emotional distance, and experience emotional closeness and vulnerability to be extremely threatening. They fear that lowering their guard even slightly will make their psychological defenses crumble and open the floodgates to a well of sadness and despair that will pour out of them, leaving them powerless to stop it. They might be correct. However, they are incorrect in assuming that exhibiting these deep and pent-up emotions (as long as they get support, love, and caring when they do—which fortunately, is often the case), will be traumatic and damaging. Opening up in such a way is often incredibly therapeutic and empowering, and it can lead them to experience far deeper emotional closeness and trust toward the other person, significantly deepening their relationship satisfaction.

Credit: Psychology Today

 

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True Blood – Almost Home (Breaking Bill)

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Written By Ryan Fu @fu_beatz

Tonight’s episode of True Blood wasn’t that bad, especially when I had a choice of watching TB or the Breaking Bad marathon. I watched a couple of episodes of Breaking Bad reminding how much I missed this television series. I wondered if I would have the same feelings when True Blood finally makes its final departure this summer. Tonight’s episode was all about letting go of the past and enjoying every second you have time left on this Earth because it’s a short ride.

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In the opening scene of the episode Eric finds away to extend the ride a little longer by taking a bite of “The Cure,” Sara Newlin. He gets cured right away leaving Mr. Gus in happy place because he’s going to make new True Blood but not pure TB because it doesn’t make good business sense because it’s all about profit for him. Unlike, Sookie because all she wants is to make Bill feel better but I’m not sure Bill wants to be cured because he knows he has to stop this vicious cycle of pain and suffering.

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Other shit happened on the show like we finally found the reason why Tara kept trying to contact her mom, which was to tell her she was sorry for not killing her father because he caused so much pain for her and her mother. Tara wants her mom to quit punishing herself and to finally let go of her because she wants her to live her life. This was quite the opposite of Jason’s former flame, Violet because all she wants is to cause suffering to everyone.

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As we can see in a scene when Violet captures Jason and brings him to her awesome sex dungeon with Jessica along with the others. She ties up Jason, telling him the horrible things she is going to do to him along with his friends because she is still angry at Jason for betraying her. But lucky for them Hoyt comes to save the day by shooting Violet, causing her True Death. In the aforementioned paragraph above, I totally believe Bill Compton actually wants his True Death unlike the unfortunate Violet.

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I believe Bill wants this vicious cycle of pain and suffering to end because in his mind it won’t stop when he gets better. Throughout the season Bill kept reminiscing about his past lives, which he knows if he continues this path, it will only lead him to more pain. Unlike, the character of Walter White on Breaking Bad, Bill knows that he has to die because that’s the only way to stop all the pain and destruction. Walter White on the other hand, wanted to live for as long as possible even though he knew that it was going to cause more harm than good. This whole season I was on the fence if I actually cared about Stephen Moyer’s character, in which this episode opened my eyes about how deep Bill is. Unlike all the vampires, who are trying to do anything possible to live longer, Bill is alright with dying. In his mind, he has lived a long life and this ride has to stop eventually. There’s only two episodes left of True Blood, so I suggest you follow Bill’s advice and enjoy one of the best shows on TV while you can because it’s coming to an end. Also, please live your life to the fullest because once again, it’s a short ride.

Fu’s Observation:

  • Sarah is looking cute as a prisoner. Does anybody else remember Anna Camp from Pitch Perfect? I always will remember her barf, I mean her part in the movie.
  • Was anybody else asleep in that Tara big relieve scene? It was so boring, I’m just glad we don’t have to deal with her again and her boring plot line but it was cool to see a swagged out little Lafayette. Was he wearing FUBU?
  • I really can’t stand Sookie anymore cause she’s such a whiny mouse.
  • Poor, poor Violet. She was just a misunderstood psychopath with the dark heart of gold, which by the way was that a dildo prodding iron?
  • Jason is definitely going to fuck Hoyt’s girlfriend, which by the way this might be the first episode I didn’t see Hoyt brake down and cry like a little girl.
  • I always wonder why is Eric the only Vamp with the power of flight? Are the other bastards not old enough to gain that power because if Bill only knew that he could fly if he just waited a couple of years, I think it would possible persuade his decision about dying. Also, he could finally fly away from that annoying bitch!

CHECK OUT TB ARTICLES:

Fire in the Hole (You can’t run away from your past)

Death is not the End (A trip down memory lane)

Lost Cause (Lafayette & Pam are the only reasons to watch the show)

Karma (Coming Full Circle)

Maybe the Last Time (Get a piece of that Fairy nookie while you can)

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Guardians of the Galaxy Review – Theater Fire, Jokes, Crying & Vin Diesel’s Finest Performance

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Written By Ryan Fu @fu_beatz

This film expands the Marvel Cinematic Universe into the cosmos, where brash adventurer Peter Quill finds himself the object of an unrelenting bounty hunt after stealing a mysterious orb coveted by Ronan, a powerful villain with ambitions that threaten the entire universe. To evade the ever-persistent Ronan, Quill is forced into an uneasy truce with a quartet of disparate misfits-Rocket, a gun-toting raccoon, Groot, a tree-like humanoid, the deadly and enigmatic Gamora and the revenge-driven Drax the Destroyer. But when Quill discovers the true power of the orb and the menace it poses to the cosmos, he must do his best to rally his ragtag rivals for a last, desperate stand-with the galaxy’s fate in the balance.

I saw it the other day before I went to work, which I was quite excited to see it because I heard a lot of great reviews about the film. Even a theater fire couldn’t stop me from watching the movie, well kinda. In a packed theater in the morning, we were all just 30 minutes into the movie, which I might add was quite enjoyable, then fire alarm went off! I was so into the movie because it didn’t take itself seriously like other Marvel films do, which I think Ironman is so relatable and likable to many people as opposed to other Marvel films because in the end of the day it’s just a movie about a comic book character. (I just lost a few comic book nerds with that line but I digress.)

The fire alarm went off, the lights went flashing on and a voice came on the PA telling us to evacuate the building but we were all like “fuck that!” We were all having a blast watching the movie that we weren’t going to leave until we all saw smoke. But 15 mins later, sitting still watching the movie with the flashing fire alarms and PA system telling us we were in danger, the manager turned off the screen and physically told is to leave the theater because of the fire alarm. Adults and children inside of the movie theater made a collective “ahhhh” because we were all having fun. We stood outside the theater for like 10 mins until we were told to go back in and they re-started the film to where they stopped it and our adventure continued.

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Chris Pratt was a perfect leading man in this film because he isn’t your typical leading man, I mean he is good looking with muscles but he has the everyman quality in which everyone likes to be around. Plus, he’s funny as shit, which was why I thought he was one of the best part of the movie and I’m super happy that he’s starting to get recognize as a viable leading man in Hollywood because he deserves it. I’ve met him a couple times while working and he was always respectful and cool. Anyways, long story short, he deserves an Oscar for this performance just kidding I think Vin Diesel should get that or at least a nomination for his voice as Groot.

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Don’t get me wrong everyone in the movie played a terrific part in the movie with Chris Pratt such as Zoe Saldana, Lee Pace, Dave Batista and Karen Gillan. Zoe essentially played her part again in Avatar but it worked for her and Karen Gillan played a sexy villan. Dave Batista played a wonderful bruiser and Lee Pace, the antagonist playing Ronan the Accuser, just plays guys who want “Power” but then gets crushed in the end in such a convincing manner. I also like Bradley Cooper as the voice of hot-tempered Rocket, which he is the only one to translate for his BFF Groot, which was played by Vin Diesel. Vin Diesel had only three words he had to say the movie, which was, “I am Groot.”

But it was enough because he was the best character in the movie and at one point I got so emotional because his character so lovable, I didn’t want to see him die. But I know you guys want to read that I cried but I didn’t damn it! I’m a man watching a Marvel Comic film and dudes don’t do that. But that’s beside the point, which I’m trying to make. Even if you’re not a big comic/ sci-fi fan, you should still go watch Guardians of the Galaxy because you’re going to have a good time. Also, you might cry, which is alright because, “We are all Groot.” ;)

Fu’s Observations

  • Chris Pratt was ripped in the movie which made me want to go to the gym
  • Karen Gillan was a sexy cyborg
  • Fine! I teared up a litte bit, there!
  • If only Vin Diesel had just three words in all his movies :(
  • We were all seriously going to to watch the film with the alarms going off
  • The 80’s music made the movie a lot cooler, especially coming from an 80s baby
  • Mixed tapes well never ever be un-cool. Having a mix song list on your iTunes is LAME.
  • I really hope they’re going to re-make Howard the Duck because it was one of my favorite childhood movies.

Fred Stoller Interview- The nicest guy you sorta know [Update] with his Court Case with the REAL Kramer from Seinfeld

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Fred Stoller Interview- The nicest guy you sorta know (Update with his Court Case with the REAL Kramer from Seinfeld)

Written by: Ryan Fu @fu_beatz

You know when you’re at a Starbucks and you see someone familiar but he’s not an acquaintance but he could be a friend. You know you’ve seen him on something like a tv show, a film, or even on those annoying car insurance commercials. You can’t remember his name but you know that you’ve seen in movies and you like him. As you rack your brain for his name, he grabs his coffee and leaves, leaving you wondering what was his name? His name was probably Fred Stoller.

Frederick Stoller aka Fred is an American stand-up comedian, actor, writer, and an all-around “good guy.” You’ve seen him on  bunch things like tv shows and movies. I first remembered Fred from a scene stealing character from Dumb and Dumber. He played the “Get off the Phone” dude.

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This is the magic of Fred Stoller. A career that spans over twenty years in which he takes ordinary and unremarkable roles and turns them into characters we fight for and love. He’s been on everthing like Everybody love Raymond, Ned’s Declassified School Surivival Guide, Wizards of Waverly Place, Joe Dirt, etc. But you probably best know him on the mega hit show Seinfeld as himself and he kills it. Fred does his job well and people love him for it.

Lately, Mr. Stoller has been know for the guy who was on Seinfeld that is being sued by Kramer.  Wait.  What?

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Not Michael Richards who played Kramer but the real Kramer, Kenny Kramer.

According to Mr. Kramer and NY Daily News, (Read the article here)

“Kenny Kramer – the inspiration for Kramer on “Seinfeld” – has filed a $1 million defamation suit against a former writer on the sitcom for defaming him and his tour business in a new book.

The suit says Fred Stoller, 55, smeared Kramer by claiming his tour guides would yell the famous Seinfeld line “Not that there’s anything wrong with that!” at gay people while leading tours through Greenwich Village.”

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He then writes a letter to Mr. Stoller calling him a “a treacherous, two-faced, backstabbing pathological liar.”

I can’t speak for Mr. Kramer or his relationship with Fred but I can speak about the man who is Fred Stoller. It is hard to hear someone talking ill about Fred because he is the one of the nicest celebrities (there are only a few) I know. He is always willing to help out other people, he always poses for fans and he will always be entertaining to everyone, even a paparazzi.

Here is a short interview with Fred Stoller @Fred_Stoller

Ryan Fu:  What are you famous for?

Fred:  “It depends. For teens Wizards of Waverly Place, but a combination of appearances on Seinfeld, Raymond, Friends, and Dumb and Dumber and other guest spots.”

Ryan Fu:  How did you get started in the biz?

Fred:  “Stand up in NYC.”

Ryan Fu:  Tell me about your experience on Seinfeld

Fred:   “As a writer it was weird. I was mostly on my own. Everyone was doing their own thing, but it was amazing getting a story on. As an actor so much fun being with those iconic stars.”

Ryan Fu:  Your relationship with the Real Kramer (Kenny Kramer):

Fred:  (Check out this Video Interview Below on his statements)

Ryan Fu:  What’s your book about?

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Fred:  “The books about all my adventures on all the shows I’ve been on, writing on Seinfeld, what’s it like to pass though some of the biggest shows in the last 20 years, and my one night stand with Kathy Griffin. “

Ryan Fu:  Your thoughts on Kramer and his lawsuit.

Fred:   “I’m glad he thinks I have a million dollars. “

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*UPDATE ON STOLLER VS KENNY KRAMER CASE

From the LA Weekly:

In classic Cosmo Kramer fashion, Kenny Kramer took offense, accusing Stoller of accusing him of being homophobic. (Got that?) The plaintiff said that the tour never even went to Greenwich Village.

But after a seven-month court case, a judge in New York dismissed Kramer’s defamation suit.

“All he said was, during the bus tour the tour guide hits on every popular catchphrase that the show is known for,” Stoller’s attorney, David Albert Pierce, tells us.

Judge Barbara Jaffe said there shouldn’t be any anti-LGBT stigma attached to the phrase; even the gay community praised the episode after it aired in 1993. She concluded:

Although Stoller finds the exercise annoying, any reasonable reader would understand it as Seinfeld-related shtick, even if the phrase was repeatedly screamed out as the bus wended its way through “gay-dominated Greenwich Village.” And, although pointing to gay people and taunting them with the phrase from within a large tour bus wending its way down tiny streets in Greenwich Village may reasonably reflect homophobia, nowhere does Stoller depict any pointing and he never uses the term “taunting.”

Stoller tells us that Kramer “just twisted it” when it came to reading his book:

When I found out I was being sued, he sent some rabid Facebook message to me, not getting the humor of my book and misconstruing it.

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It’s good to know that nice guys can finsh first in which throughout the whole case Stoller maintained his sense of humor as he kept rolling with the punches. Please read his books and check out his comedy shows, which you can take a look at his tour dates on his Facebook.

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True Blood – Maybe the Last Time (Get a piece of that fairy Nookie while you can)

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Written by Ryan Fu @fu_beatz

Even after all my shit talking about how sub-par the first couple of episodes of this final season of True Blood, it finally just hit me that there only a couple of episodes left. I’m actually feeling kinda sad that it’s not coming back next season even though they are running out of ideas, I still feel sad that it’s not coming back. So, this appropriately entitled episode “Maybe the last time,” quite possibly is the last time will see these great characters. My feeling of sadness was probably due to the fact that they killed Sarah’s hot sister Amber but at least we got to see the return of Hoyt. Everything is coming to a end, in which every character on True Blood is preparing for and we should too because this could be the Last Time.

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After finding out last episode that Bill has the advance stage of the virus, Sookie calls in a vampire doctor to help Bill, but come to find out that Bill’s condition might be caused by Sookie’s blood royalty. So, she calls for her fairy grandfather for help but gets denied in the end as her grandfather tells her that magic can help sometimes but not this time. So, Sookie decides she is going to stay will Bill until the end and gives him the “fairy nookie,” one last time.

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Jason Stackhouse is also trying to get a piece of the nookie from Hoyt’s new girlfriend as Hoyt returns to Bon Tom to see to his mother’s death. Hoyt still doesn’t remember Jason so he doesn’t realize that they have a history together. Jason’s knows this history to well as he tries not to replay the past again by boning Hoyt’s new GF. But I have to admit that microbiologist might be to hot to resist but Jason might not get a chance to ruin Hoyt’s life again because his crazy ex – Violet is planning her revenge by capturing the Sheriffs fairy daughter with her boyfriend in her sex dungeon.

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One person I would have loved to see in a sex dungeon was Sarah’s sister, Amber, but she saw the True Death this episode after Eric saw a piece of Sarah in Amber. Before her untimely death, she told Eric and Mr. Gus that Sarah is ‘”the cure.” Mr. Gus decides to make a deal with Eric that if he captures Sarah and not kill her, they will save him making an anecdote for vampires as they will make new “True Blood.” Eric is hesitates to take the deal because he doesn’t just wants to kill Sarah but Pam pleads with him to take the deal, which he does but I’m not sure you can trust an Asian with a 10 gallon hat with snake skin boots.

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Whatever happens in the end you can bet that Sarah Newlin will get what she deserves, which might be already happening because she is starting to lose her shit. Fantasizing about Jason Stackhouse, her late vampire husband and her recent spiritual guru. In her fucked up vision, everyone tells her that she’s going to die tonight but they want her to decide which religion she would chose, which of course Sarah Newlin would selfishly chose herself but I like what the writers did right here especially with the conflict in the Middle East, it’s nice to know even vampires are feeling the affect of the situation in Gaza.

Watching True Blood right now sorta feels like the last days of Summer Camp, which you know you are going to have to say goodbye to all your friends eventually but you just want to live in the moment for as long as you can. I’m done critiquing this show about how its suppose to live up to my own standards of True Blood in which I’m going to stop as I try just enjoy the show and love the ride. Because in the end, it’s just a fucking show and what matters most is if you were fucking entertained by it or not, which I still am.

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Fu’s Observations:

  • No! Not Sarah’s Sister. She was sooo hot and we didn’t to get to see her naked!!!
  • Hoyt is still a crybaby but I think that works for him as he got him a hot microbiologist in which that is probably that hottest microbiologist I have ever seen in my life.
  • Jason just can’t help himself can’t he? Jason’s penis is sorta like Sookie, just fucking everything and fucking everything up.
  • Violet is a sick puppy but I like it. I wish I had a sex dungeon. Also, did she say a 19th century dildo sword?
  • Weirdest line of the night: Violet, “I used to fuck my brother a lot.” What is this Game of Thrones?
  • Forget about Vampires, Big Brother is watching US!!!
  • That vampire doctor was hardcore also Sookie’s grandfather fairy is kinda of a dick.
  • Is it hotter that Sookie and Bill are actually a couple in real life and they are having sex on camera or is it just whatever. I personally think it’s hotter and they must love that shit.

CHECK OUT TB ARTICLES:

Fire in the Hole (You can’t run away from your past)

Death is not the End (A trip down memory lane)

Lost Cause (Lafayette & Pam are the only reasons to watch the show)

Karma (Coming Full Circle)

Married vs You’re the Worst – Season 1/ Episode 3 (Giving & Taking)

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Written By Ryan Fu @fu_beatz

Listen, I’m not the guy to give relationship advice from because I was a lazy boyfriend but I do remember one of my criticism from girlfriends I’ve dated was that a relationship is all about giving and taking. Apparently, I was doing most of the taking and not much of the giving. Another criticism of mine was I wasn’t trustworthy especially around their hotter girlfriends. This week’s episodes of Marriage and You’re the Worst deals about all the shit I just talked about above and anal play. (You know you like it!)

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Russ’s wife decides it is better for them if he gets a vasectomy because she doesn’t want any kids anymore but Russ still wants to have sex with her, so he was willing to go Lord Varys aka The Spider! Russ is starting to show that he is a good guy but he’s not that smart but at least he loves his wife.

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Jimmy shows that he is defiantly a commitment-phobe when Gretchen asks for a key to his apartment in which he gets all weird about then snoops on her phone after she left it at his pad. Jimmy is still not sure what he is doing in this relationship but at least he is showing signs that he is willing to give it a chance with Gretchen by giving her the key to his apartment.

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Lina is super excited that Russ is cutting off his boys in order she can’t make anymore demons anymore. She treats Russ to “hotel sex” in which they finally bone and get some satisfaction!

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Gretchen really wants a key to Jimmy’s pad because she feels like they’re getting closer. She even gives him a pass when she finds out that he was trying to snoop on her phone. At her birthday party she finally feels comfortable with her relationship with Jimmy telling her friends including Jimmy’s ex that she is “banging” Jimmy.

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Blow Job, Missonary, Doggie Style. Anal Play. Very Satisfied.

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Shower head anal play. One Blow Job. No intercourse but kinda still satisfied.

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Once again, the friends on Married are so much cooler than the You’re the Worst buds. Especially, when we figure out that the other Married couple, Jess ’s husband is the great Paul Reiser from Mad About You. They get into a heated sexting situation with another married couple, which was fucking hilarious.

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I think they finally resolved one of their problems by getting a vasectomy because they don’t have to worry about having another child.

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Jimmy and Gretchen are just going through what all new couples go through, trying to figure out if they can trust each other. It is definitely harder when both of them don’t believe in relationships but I got a feeling if they keep being honest to themselves and each other they might have a better shot in being a couple than other people who are honest to one another.

Three episodes in with Married and YTW, I’m still pleasantly surprised about how both shows are still great things to watch on television. I hope they continue to create fascinating and intriguing shows for all us to talk about the following day. Also, if I ever decide to be in a relationship again I will try to be a better boyfriend by giving more and trusting more. But these are just words, in which actions speak louder. Right now as it stands, I’m still as my ex’s would put it, “The Worst!”

Fu’s Observations:

  • Don’t you just hate it when one of your friends tell you they’re on a juice cleanse. It’s like who gives a fuck? Why don’t you be a normal person and just not eat ;)
  • Paul Reiser was amazing on Married but Brandon Smith is starting be really good on YTW as he challenges the ideas on getting blowjobs from gay men but still being heterosexual.
  • Also, you must watch Brandon Smith on Get On Up as he plays a great Little Richard.
  • I’m starting to feel weird about Jimmy’s ex husband. Why is he so nice and trying to be buds with Jimmy?
  • “Hotel Sex” is the best because you don’t have to clean up afterwards, in which you can be loud and rude.
  • I remember I would leave my cellphone at my girlfriends pad on purpose so she would freak out about all the text messages. I’m the worst.

CHECK OUT OUT MARRIED VS YOU’RE THE WORST ARTICLES:

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Get on Up – Do right by yourself

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Written By Ryan Fu @fu_beatz

Get on Up is based on the incredible life story of the Godfather of Soul, James Brown, which the film will gives a fearless look inside the music, moves and moods of James Brown, taking audiences on the journey from his impoverished childhood to his evolution into one of the most influential figures of the 20th century.

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I watched this movie with a couple of friends last night, which we where big fans of James Brown’s music even though we were pretty young at the time when he was on top of the music game. The movie was enjoyable but I personally thought it ran at bit long but I guess it has to be when you’re telling someone’s life. Chadwick Boseman did a terrific job playing Brown, getting all his songs down including his funky moves. Just like how he got the essence in playing Jackie Robinson in another bio topic film, 42, he got to the heart and soul of James Brown. But of course, he had plenty of help along the way with a great supporting cast.

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An All-Star cast of Octavia Spencer, Viola Davis, Dan Aykroyd, Craig Robinson, plus many more. I thought everyone played a terrific job including Nelsan Ellis, who plays Lafayette on True Blood. It was crazy seeing Nelsan not being so flamboyant, trying to be the center of everyone’s attention but being in the background as the back up singer of James Brown, playing Bobby Byrd. Former cast mates from the Help also did a great job playing opposite mother figures to James Brown, which you can see why he was such a driven young man to begin with. He came from nothing and became something.

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As James Brown tells it, “You always have to be moving forwards because if you move backwards, then you’re dead.” He had the ability to flip an awkward situation and make it work for himself. He was driven to succeed because he believed in himself when no one else did, which is just one of the virtuous of successful people. Naturally, James Brown wasn’t an angel but he never claimed to be but he believed you gotta do what you gotta to do to succeed in this world. In his words, “Do right by yourself.” Regardless, of what people might think about you, you must do what you do and continue on your path because that’s how you stay true to yourself. Do right by yourself and you can live with yourself, which James Brown did and he lived to the fullest. I highly recommend this movie and listening to James Brown’s music.

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Fu’s Observation:

  • It was a long ass movie – Don’t get me wrong it was a great movie, but fuck it was long.
  • I sorta wanted Nelsan Ellis just to play Lafayette just one time on screen just to tell James Brown off but in Lafayette’s swagger and “take no shit” attitude.
  • Jill Scott was fucking sexy in this movie, but she got beat down!
  • The movie jumped from back and fourth at different periods of James Brown’s life, which worked a couple times for the film but at some parts I just wished it just stayed as a linear story.
  • I totally forgot how Mr. Brown was amazing performing, influencing so people in the music industry.
  • The Rolling Stones was one of the bands that were influenced by James Brown’s music and performance. So much so that Mick Jagger is one of the producers of Get on Up.

Married Vs You’re the Worst – Season 1/ Episode 2 (Awkwardness)

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What constitutes a relationship? Is it a piece of legal document that recognizes you and other person are in a business/relationship or is it a unspoken feeling you have towards another human being? At one point do you realize this is the person you want to be with for the rest of your life or just for a couple of weeks? These are the just a couple of questions people who are married or single have to ask themselves every single time they are in a relationship. In this 2nd episodes of Married and You’re the Worst tries to answer these questions about what it means to be in a relationship?

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Russ is feeling the pressure of another thing (new puppy) getting in the way of spending more time with his wife. After realizing the expensive cost of treating his new puppy he asks his newly single friend for money, which he does but he has to hang out with him at his former wife’s engagement party. His friend doesn’t even go to the party taking Russ back to his old house, reminiscing about his old life with his family with some hired hookers. Russ realizes that he and his wife need to take some time away from their own lives and spend quality time just by themselves.

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Jimmy realizes he might lose whatever he has with Gretchen after his rude remarks about her period, which was pretty funny at the time. But Jimmy feels he needs to get out of his comfort zone taking Gretchen out to a fancy restaurant but that backfires on him when his ex shows up with her new husband, leading Gretchen to ditch Jimmy quickly. Jimmy finally finds her in a creepy alley drinking by herself, finding out from her it was all a misunderstanding, she wasn’t offended by his remarks about her period. Jimmy totally looks like he has no idea what he is doing but it might be a good thing for him because it looked like he was in a rut before Gretchen plus how bad can it possibly get? Oh, right. He might fall in love, if he isn’t already.

The Women

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Lina is just exhausted of taking care of everyone in her family including her new puppy. But at least she gets to unwind with Russ’s BFF drinking and dancing with younger men. I feel she needs the vacation more than her husband.

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Gretchen is taken a back that Jimmy wants to spend more time with her especially his remarks about her period because she is not the “relationship type” at all. As we saw in the first episode she tells Jimmy, “that this shit scares her,” which she had to tell Jimmy again this episode but reassures him that everything is cool and she knew what she got herself into with Jimmy. I feel like she’s not ready at all be in a relationship but it’s cool that you can find someone who also feels the same way.

The Sex

Married

Sex-less shower scene. Two hookers kiss. Mad Frustrated.

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Masturbation, which lead to “blue balls.” Def. Mad Frustrated.

Friends

No comparison, the friends on Married are so much cooler than You’re the Worst buds. They do blow and hire hookers out of the blue, Winner Circle.

The Problem

Married

Money, the mortgage, the kids and the rest of the problems that go with a marriage. You’re not in a relationship with one person anymore, so have to worry about other people, which leads to more responsibilities and more stress. Sure, a quick getaway might relieve the problem for a week or two but you still have to deal with it when you come back.

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Just realizing if you’re in a relationship or not is the biggest problem I can tell when you’re a single person. It’s hard to act one way when you don’t know what you mean to the other person. If you both parties agree on what they want this “so-called relationship,” it might be more beneficial to both parties. But simple put it’s not easier when you’re single dealing with relationships.

A great follow up episode from both Married and You’re the Worst, which is leading me to re-evaluate my own thoughts on being in a relationship whether you’re married or single. It just seems like that are no easy quick fixes and if you care about the person you’re with then you are willing to be patient to solve your problems. If not, I think its best just to move on and cause more misery to another person ;)

Fu’s Observations:

  • Russ’s friends are the best! “I had to finger myself because I’m not going to back down from a challenge.” Having hookers exercise in front you while giving them a sad tour of your old house was frickin amazing!
  • Question: Why is the bathroom the place you always have to do drugs in? It can’t be the most sanitary place in the world.
  • Four showerheads sound amazing right now.
  • I totally agree, Cameron was the villain in Ferris Bueller’s Day Off because he was such a Debbie Downer!
  • Ladies, you’re menstrual cycle does not affect our sex drive at all. As Jimmy eloquently put it, “I’ll play though.”
  • The commune dinner was funny. I personally would think it would be cool but I get it you want you’re personal space.
  • I’ve eaten Chinese food with my girlfriend at the movie theaters, which is absolutely the best and the worst for everyone else in the theater but fuck them! Everyone is such a Cameron these days.
  • What happened to the cat?!!!

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Halt and Catch Fire – Up Helly Aa (Survival of the Fittest)

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Written By Ryan Fu @fu_beatz

Another great episode of Halt and Catch Fire with its amazing acting and story lines leading to fantastic season ending finale next week. “Survival of the fittest” is a phrase that originated in evolutionary theory as an alternative way of describing the mechanism of natural selection. It is more commonly used today in other contexts, to refer to a supposed greater probability that “fit” as opposed to “unfit” individuals will survive some test. Charles Darwin thought survival of the fittest expressed in mechanical terms, is that which Mr. Darwin has called ‘natural selection’, or the preservation of favored races in the struggle for life.” This is the case of tonight’s episode, as the characters have to make a decision if they want to compete with its competitors, in which they have to adapt or die.

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The Cardiff finally makes it to Las Vegas to Comdex after a long car ride, where Joe tells a weird story about how a bunch of Vikings would build a bunch of boats then have a festival to light them on fire, which will make perfect sense in the end of the episode. At Comdex they find out they don’t have a room to stay at or a booth to show their projection, but they’ve come to far to fail. They find a room and find a booth, which Cameron makes a cool marketing art projection to generate buzz for The Giant. Everything seems like its going Cardiff’s way but nothing is easy in this world, especially for the things you want the most.

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As Donna’s former boss, Hunt with their neighbor, Brain, unveils a faster and cheaper version of The Giant, calling it the Slingshot. A reference to the Greek mythology if David and Goliath. In his speech to the crowd as well as the Cardiff team that it doesn’t matter how big or fast it is, it only matters who strikes first. Donna goes Jerry Springer on Hunt, leading Gordon to believe that she had an affair with him.

One of the best scene of the episode with great acting on both sides with Gordon trying to figure out if Donna cheated on him but more importantly if she told him how to build The Giant. Donna fires right back with Gordon’s accusations telling him she should have have cheated on with Hunt because at least she would’ve felt alive because she has been feeling neglected because Gordon has spent so much time creating The Giant. A great scene about two people, who invested so much of their lives for a project that potentially can change their lives for the better. But the team has to decide if they want still want to compete or try to stand out with its competitors.

Adapt or Die.

Gordon re-configures The Giant taking out Cameron’s Operation System making if faster and cheaper than The Slingshot. Cameron desperately wants Joe to put back the OS because she feels like it’s just other machine without any uniqueness or soul but Joe knows that they are dead in the water if they don’t compete with The Slingshot. Gordon and Joe show up at their both with the “soulless Giant,” telling the crowd that its faster and cheaper than The Slingshot but more importantly it will do what you asks it to do because it’s just a machine, it’s not your friend, but your employee.

The speech wins the crowd over which leads them to potential buyers for The Giant but the Cardiff team minus Cameron, felt empty after their small victory at Comdex. You get the sense that they reached their goal by showing their invention to the world but did they really show everything they got? What I mean was their goal just to sell a portable computer or change the world?

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In Joe’s speech at Comdex he tells the crowd that the computer is just a machine, it’s just something you use and it’s not your friend. But at the end of the episode Joe goes into a crowded hotel room with a bunch of people watching the unveiling of the new Apple computer, which it looked like a scene from Frankenstein as we see the computer power up and amazingly talks to the crowd. Everyone is astonished including Joe, uttering to member of the crowd, “It talks?”

I feel like Joe made a mistake in taking out Cameron’s OS because it was they’re big chance to show people that computer’s could be so much more than machines but I also understand it was for the good of the team. Joe and Gordon had to adapt because their lives are on the line. Pablo Picasso once said, “Every act of creation is first an act of destruction.” Maybe this is why the Vikings have a festival where they built their beautiful boats only to burn them down. Because they knew like every other artists knows that if you are going to build or create anything you must destroy the old version in order for your creation to blossom.

Fu’s Observations:

  • Old School Las Vegas is so much cooler looking
  • Cameron could have been a Performance Artists with her “Chained up Suit case.”
  • I called it; Comdex is a sex/porn convention for nerds!
  • Cardiff’s party reminded of Tom Hank’s Bachelor Party but they didn’t have a donkey.
  • Windows’ bugginess! Touch screens are a fad! High density floppy discs! They also forgot to mention Pogs.
  • Hunt is poor man version of Joe without the fashion sense.
  • Did I hear right that Cameron stole a piece of the Hoover Dam?!!

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