by Ryan Fu •
Sometimes we are depressed simply because we are overwhelmed with all the things we have to do that we haven’t gotten around to doing. You might be into GTD, but sometimes every GTDer falls behind with his system, and sometimes you just don’t have the energy to do so. So all the “stuff” that’s in our head can overwhelm us. Start simply by picking up a piece of paper and a pen, and making a list of the most pressing things you have to do. Sometimes it’s work stuff, sometimes it’s stuff around the house that’s bothering us, sometimes it’s goal tasks, or a combination of these and more. Simply making a list can be a big relief — you’re getting things under control. You can see, right in front of you, what you need to do, and that alone can pick up your mood.
You’ve made a list, and you still feel overwhelmed? Well, get started on the first thing you need to do. Is it a big task? Break it down and just do the smallest task, something just to get you started. Once you get started, once you get into action, you’ll feel better. Trust me. You might still feel overwhelmed, but at least you’re doing something. And once you start doing something, you’ve got momentum, and that feels much better than lying around feeling sorry for yourself.
I know, you might not be in the mood for exercise. But just do it! Taking a walk, going for a run, going to the gym, whatever it is you do for exercise — get out and do it now! You don’t need to do a real hard workout, but the simple act of exercise can lift your mood immediately. Just do it!
Laying around in your underwear, smelling bad, is not going to do you any good. Simply showering, and feeling clean, can do wonders for your mood. Brush your teeth, comb your hair, shave, do whatever it is that you need to do to feel clean and good about yourself. Instant pick me up!
Sometimes, if you stay home lying around, feeling depressed, just getting out (after showering and grooming) will change your mood. Staying home all the time can really get you down, and you may not realize this until you go out and do something. Preferably something on your list (see No. 1).
I like Brown Eyed Girl, the Kinks, the Ramones, or an upbeat Beatles tune, but you might have your own brand of feel-good music. Whatever it is, crank it up, and let yourself move to the beat. It may just be what the doctor ordered.
Got a significant other, best friend, family member, co-worker you can talk to? Bend their ear. That’s what they’re their for. If you don’t, there are hotlines, or professionals, you can talk to. And then there’s always online forums. These are great places to find someone to talk to. Getting things off your chest makes a big difference, and can be a huge lift. It can also help you work out the reasons you’re feeling down.
Credit: Zen Habits
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Monday’s episode of Conan ended on an unusually somber note. The cause: During the course of taping that evening’s show, Conan O’Brien, Andy Richter, and their guest Will Arnett got word of Robin Williams’ unexpected death.
“We tape these shows a few hours early, and by the time you see this now on TV, I’m sure that you’ll know. I’m sorry to anybody in our studio audience that I’m breaking this news—this is absolutely shocking and horrifying, and so upsetting on every level,” a visibly shaken O’Brien explained at the end of the show.
He and his cohort then took an opportunity to briefly salute their comrade. The most moving words came from Arnett, who worked with Williams in the 2006 film RV.
“As funny as he was—he’s truly one of the all-time greats—he was even better as a person,” the Arrested Development star said…
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Tonight, a bunch of us celebrated my friend’s birthday by going to Korean BBQ. We were all having a good time eating, drinking and laughing about our problems over a flame just like the kids in the Lord of the Flies, just being good friends. But when the time came to pay the bill, it all changed because one guys at the table had their ATM card declined. Fortunately, the guy went to the bathroom, so when they brought his card back to the table to explain to us that his card had “no funds” to save his embarrassment. It took only a couple of seconds before a few guys at the table started to turn on the guy, yelling that he was bum. Then someone shouted,“we should cut his ATM card then throw it in the fire.” It was just like in Lord of the Flies, where we all decided we should kill Ralph because the group wanted it. I have to admit I was caught up in it even though I knew it was totally fucked up. It was like we all turned into a bunch of savages and we wanted to destroy something. It just goes to show you that it doesn’t take much these days before, we as men revert back to state of nature, which of course NATURE always wins.
We hold up his card over the fiery Korean BBQ grill like a ritual, getting ready to cut and kill his card. All of us shouting and yelling like a bunch of blood thirsty savages. The Asian people around us were getting worried, which we were told in the end, “we are starting to get complaints, so we need to leave.” They were totally right that we should have been thrown out of the restaurant because we acted like animals. We lost ourselves, we turned our back on our brother, we succumbed to peer pressure as we all failed humanity once again. Just weeds in the Garden of Eden as we all take a bite of the apple, which in this case was a pig. All Hail Beelzebub!
We finally gut the pig and put it on a spike for the whole world to see that the mob rules and chaos is ruthless but fair. In one motion, we cut the card like it was butter and social media it all over the net for the whole world to see. After we kill the card, we place it over the grill and do a mandatory picture of our victorious trophy. We pat each other on the backs like we were on the battlefield as we finally pay the bill and to the joy of the restaurant patrons, we leave the establishment. We all walk out before the guy comes back to the table to realize that his card and his ego was cut into two. You would think that cutting his card was the worse thing that we could have possibly done to the guy but the worse thing was pretending that nothing happened while we were all waiting outside of the valet for our cars. The dude was like Ralph, casted out of the group for nothing he did personally but because he was going against the group’s ideology.
I’m sadden and ashamed for all of us because as far as the human race has come, we can still go back to a state of nature, where the weak gets punished and mob mentality rules. I personally have to say that I’m sorry to the dude and the human race for our actions tonight but can you really blame us? No matter how civil and cool we act to one another in this present day of age, there is still that animal inside of us. The part that wants to fight and fuck everything. The dog inside of us. Where we just want to be part of the pack to hunt and kill things. So, let this be a reminder to all of you if you think you are above the human carnage that is our ancestors, which is a part of our history.
You know when you’re at a Starbucks and you see someone familiar but he’s not an acquaintance but he could be a friend. You know you’ve seen him on something like a tv show, a film, or even on those annoying car insurance commercials. You can’t remember his name but you know that you’ve seen in movies and you like him. As you rack your brain for his name, he grabs his coffee and leaves, leaving you wondering what was his name? His name was probably Fred Stoller.
Frederick Stoller aka Fred is an American stand-up comedian, actor, writer, and an all-around “good guy.” You’ve seen him on bunch things like tv shows and movies. I first remembered Fred from a scene stealing character from Dumb and Dumber. He played the “Get off the Phone” dude.
This is the magic of Fred Stoller. A career that spans over twenty years in which he takes ordinary and unremarkable roles and turns them into characters we fight for and love. He’s been on everthing like Everybody love Raymond, Ned’s Declassified School Surivival Guide, Wizards of Waverly Place, Joe Dirt, etc. But you probably best know him on the mega hit show Seinfeld as himself and he kills it. Fred does his job well and people love him for it.
Lately, Mr. Stoller has been know for the guy who was on Seinfeld that is being sued by Kramer. Wait. What?
Not Michael Richards who played Kramer but the real Kramer, Kenny Kramer.
According to Mr. Kramer and NY Daily News, (Read the article here)
“Kenny Kramer – the inspiration for Kramer on “Seinfeld” – has filed a $1 million defamation suit against a former writer on the sitcom for defaming him and his tour business in a new book.
The suit says Fred Stoller, 55, smeared Kramer by claiming his tour guides would yell the famous Seinfeld line “Not that there’s anything wrong with that!” at gay people while leading tours through Greenwich Village.”
He then writes a letter to Mr. Stoller calling him a “a treacherous, two-faced, backstabbing pathological liar.”
I can’t speak for Mr. Kramer or his relationship with Fred but I can speak about the man who is Fred Stoller. It is hard to hear someone talking ill about Fred because he is the one of the nicest celebrities (there are only a few) I know. He is always willing to help out other people, he always poses for fans and he will always be entertaining to everyone, even a paparazzi.
Ryan Fu: What are you famous for?
Fred: “It depends. For teens Wizards of Waverly Place, but a combination of appearances on Seinfeld, Raymond, Friends, and Dumb and Dumber and other guest spots.”
Ryan Fu: How did you get started in the biz?
Fred: “Stand up in NYC.”
Ryan Fu: Tell me about your experience on Seinfeld
Fred: “As a writer it was weird. I was mostly on my own. Everyone was doing their own thing, but it was amazing getting a story on. As an actor so much fun being with those iconic stars.”
Ryan Fu: Your relationship with the Real Kramer (Kenny Kramer):
Fred: (Check out this Video Interview Below on his statements)
Ryan Fu: What’s your book about?
Fred: “The books about all my adventures on all the shows I’ve been on, writing on Seinfeld, what’s it like to pass though some of the biggest shows in the last 20 years, and my one night stand with Kathy Griffin. “
Ryan Fu: Your thoughts on Kramer and his lawsuit.
Fred: “I’m glad he thinks I have a million dollars. “
From the LA Weekly:
In classic Cosmo Kramer fashion, Kenny Kramer took offense, accusing Stoller of accusing him of being homophobic. (Got that?) The plaintiff said that the tour never even went to Greenwich Village.
But after a seven-month court case, a judge in New York dismissed Kramer’s defamation suit.
“All he said was, during the bus tour the tour guide hits on every popular catchphrase that the show is known for,” Stoller’s attorney, David Albert Pierce, tells us.
Judge Barbara Jaffe said there shouldn’t be any anti-LGBT stigma attached to the phrase; even the gay community praised the episode after it aired in 1993. She concluded:
Although Stoller finds the exercise annoying, any reasonable reader would understand it as Seinfeld-related shtick, even if the phrase was repeatedly screamed out as the bus wended its way through “gay-dominated Greenwich Village.” And, although pointing to gay people and taunting them with the phrase from within a large tour bus wending its way down tiny streets in Greenwich Village may reasonably reflect homophobia, nowhere does Stoller depict any pointing and he never uses the term “taunting.”
Stoller tells us that Kramer “just twisted it” when it came to reading his book:
When I found out I was being sued, he sent some rabid Facebook message to me, not getting the humor of my book and misconstruing it.
It’s good to know that nice guys can finsh first in which throughout the whole case Stoller maintained his sense of humor as he kept rolling with the punches. Please read his books and check out his comedy shows, which you can take a look at his tour dates on his Facebook.